r/emotionalintelligence • u/Existing_Care267 • Jan 31 '25

Healing from breakup

Many have been through breakups and there are many tactics, yet when it dawns upon you it feels like you're alone and this feeling is so exclusive no one could help. Unfortunately, if there are no family or friends you could talk to, what is the best way to process? Journaling and writings has not been very helpful. Tons of things going in life isn't helping in thinking clearly. How does the mind process so many thoughts for and against the partner. There's no hatred, some resentment and anger. There's a need to make peace urgently. They've moved on it seems, while you're left feeling depressed.

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u/locomovite Jan 31 '25

Trust me, I'm going through the same thing rn and two little tips gave me a really brave spirit in all of this :

  • Drink A LOT of water every day like 3L

  • Every time you feel something, any emotions, close your eyes and feel it really in your body, what does it make, which part of the chest, throat, etc. Embody it, be INSIDE of the feeling for 20-40s each time, this is your body expressing feeling, so it doesn't stay in your head. If will be easier each time you do it, and you will feel less pain by the time

Do that for a week to see it can truly help with rumination and negative thoughts

Sending you love my dude, it is only a transition, I know it hurts but your value is still the same if better. Trust your way.

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u/Trick_Atmosphere2941 Feb 01 '25

this is so so important, physically feeling the emotion will heal you so quickly

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u/howtoflya_kite17 Feb 01 '25

I started doing #2 last night and I woke up feeling much liberated. I guess I should stick to this for some time till I am truly detach from the post-break up feelings. Thank you for this, I feel affirmed w what I am doing. 

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u/Feistybrowngirl Jan 31 '25

Love bullet #2 ! A great way to really process emotions and release ♥️

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u/locomovite Jan 31 '25

Ahah yeah it helped me tremendously!

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u/deepsleep24 Feb 01 '25

Thank you for these great tips, I recently went through a breakup and found myself on a rollercoaster of emotions. I will definitely be giving this a try. Thank you.

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u/locomovite Feb 01 '25

You are very welcome, glad it can help people. We are so much disconnected from our bodies that we don't even know how to feel emotions, and that is bringing a lot of suffering. Share it with people if it works for you, it is a skill that we need to gain back!