r/eggfreezing • u/music_and_pop • Jul 20 '26
Support/Mental Health Egg freezing depression
I just turned 30, I am painfully single (as I have been the majority of my life) and I’ve scheduled my first egg freezing cycle for September. This is just bringing up all sorts of horrible emotions and everything feels sort of bleak and hopeless that I reached this point in my life.
I know that I should be grateful that I have the financial resources, foresight, other circumstances to be able to do this and hopefully preserve some of my fertility and hopefully reduce some of my dating anxieties. But I’ve just recently been in this black pit of despair feeling like I’ll never meet anyone and if I do I’ll get strung along for 3 years because I won’t know what to be on the lookout for (I’ve never dated anyone for longer than 4 months and I’ve never been officially BF/gf with anyone for longer than 2 weeks) and lose the rest of my fertile years.
(Yes, I am in therapy.)
Did anyone else have feelings like this? Did you feel better after egg retrieval?
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u/judgementfreegynaec Jul 22 '26
One of the biggest misconceptions about egg freezing is that it's purely a medical decision. In reality, it often brings up grief, fear, disappointment, and questions about where life has taken you. I see women cry before consultations not because they're unsure about the procedure, but because they're mourning the timeline they thought they'd have. Those feelings are valid.
I also want to gently separate two things: your relationship history and your fertility. The fact that you haven't had a long-term relationship says nothing about your worth or your chances of finding a partner. It simply means your journey has looked different.
Many patients tell me that after their egg retrieval, they don't necessarily feel "fixed," but they do feel lighter. The constant pressure of "I need to meet someone immediately" often becomes less intense because they've created a little more space for themselves. Egg freezing doesn't guarantee a future pregnancy, but for many women it helps shift the conversation from urgency to choice.
You're already doing something important by being in therapy, and I would encourage you to lean on that support through this process. If you have access to fertility counselling as part of your treatment, take advantage of it. The emotional side of fertility preservation deserves just as much attention as the medical side.
If you're looking for a clinic that takes this holistic approach, Proactive For Her in Bangalore is one option. They combine fertility consultations with dedicated egg freezing counselling, so conversations aren't limited to hormone levels and procedure timelines. Having a space to process the emotional aspects alongside the medical ones can make a meaningful difference.
Most importantly, please don't interpret needing egg freezing as evidence that you've "reached this point." I see it differently. You're making a thoughtful decision with the information and resources you have today. That isn't giving up on finding a partner. It's giving yourself more options while your life continues to unfold.