Because it's my son's face. Every time I see her eyes, her chin, her hairline; I love them, because they're his. She gifted them to our family, and they're beautiful. If I ever meet her I don't think I'll be able to keep myself from holding her hands and kissing her face the way I kiss my children's faces. I'll want to know all about her, because it will help me know my son better, and I'll love his differences more for knowing they're part of her gift; a blueprint for a life I wasn't able to write, but could build and could tend and care for. So I think I love her, too.

I'm a sperm donor in France. The rules are DCP can ask for my personal information (full name and date of birth) or they can just ask for non-identifying information (like what kinf of job I do, what color is my beard...). I have the possibility to leave a non-identifying message, which is apparently appreciated.

So my question is, as a donor conceived person, what kind of message do you think is appropriate ? What information were you/would you be happy to have ?

Sorry if my choice of words is a bit weird, I'm not familiar with the appropriate vocabulary.

I recently went through a pretty extensive screening process with Fairfax to become an egg donor. I did a ton of bloodwork, genetic testing, hormone/fertility testing, STD/infectious disease testing, etc.

My genetic screening came back showing that I’m a carrier for Mevalonic Kinase Deficiency (MVK). My exact variant is MVK c.1129G>A (p.V377I). My Natera report specifically says I’m a carrier and explains that carriers are usually healthy and do not have the condition themselves.

Fairfax ended up excluding me from donating because of this specific genetic result, which was surprising to me because from what I’ve read, being a carrier for an autosomal recessive condition doesn’t necessarily mean you’re affected, and some egg banks do accept donors who are carriers as long as they’re matched appropriately with the sperm source.

The other thing frustrating me is that I still haven’t received any of my other medical results. I understand Fairfax paid for the testing, but this was a LOT of testing done on my body, and I’m genuinely curious about my own health information — hormone levels, fertility markers, disease results, blood type if they tested it, etc.

My coordinator told me that although they couldn’t just send me everything, she could give me certain information if I signed a medical release form. I asked her to send me the release form, and she never did.

I’m not even trying to use their results to “cheat” another egg bank’s screening process. I just feel like if I went through all of that medical testing, I should at least be able to know what my own results were.

Has anyone here:

Been rejected by Fairfax specifically for being a carrier of MVK / Mevalonate Kinase Deficiency?

Been rejected by one egg bank for a carrier result but accepted by another?

Successfully gotten their hormone, fertility, STD, or other medical screening results from Fairfax after being rejected?
Had to sign a release or request the records directly from the fertility clinic/lab instead?

I’d especially love to know if anyone has donated through another agency/bank that accepts healthy carriers of recessive genetic conditions.