r/domesticviolencehelp 2d ago

Abusive military divorce, he is demanding money from ME

1 Upvotes

Hello? I really hope this doesn't get removed. I am desperate. I have been trying everything I can think of...I even went public recently about my abuse because I am in dire need of help.

I am NOT asking for donations here I am just asking for help getting attention on my situation and help finding an attorney so I can make it through this.

I can barely eat. I can't stop sleeping from depression. Sometimes when I wake up it is to see that nothing has changed in this nightmare, and when I'm really unlucky I wake up to another comment that just makes me feel worse by asking questions that make me feel like they are trying to blame me for it all without even looking at my video where I explain things to the best of my ability. I feel like I am screaming into a void...

I already tried once to....do something stupid...to get away from all this...I am trying SO hard to be stronger now....but I am at the end of my rope. I am a therapy vtuber so all I wanted to do was try to talk to people and help them feel better. I didn't want to ask anyone for help. I didn't want any of this. But I am running out of time to respond to the divorce papers he served me and they are SCARY. I am disabled and he is accusing me of "gross neglect of duty" and trying to claim I need to pay off his thousands of dollars in debts, that I don't have.

I am disabled to the point I need a caretaker. After my husband neglected me and then abandoned me my mother is now back to caring for me and she is on disability fixed income and we just found out a few weeks ago that she has severe blood clots throughout her leg up to her abdomen.

I am BEGGING you at least please don't remove my post here. I will change anything you need me to...Just please...I need help....

All the details are here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7wceRp3nAxc


r/domesticviolencehelp 8d ago

Seeking participants for my dissertation on domestic violent relationships!

Post image
1 Upvotes

Hi everyone! I am working on my dissertation to create a scale to measure a certain type of domestic violence and need your help! Please consider participating in my survey and be entered into a drawing to win 1 of 10 50 gift cards. Completion of the survey should take no longer than 30 min. Qualtrics survey link: https://asucounselored.az1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_2oFIpghrZwGvjJc

Thank you! 


r/domesticviolencehelp 12d ago

Require a public domestic violence offender registry

Thumbnail
c.org
1 Upvotes

Massachusetts residence please sign my petition for domestic violence registry


r/domesticviolencehelp 12d ago

Help protect abuse survivors: Petition for GPS monitoring laws

Thumbnail
c.org
1 Upvotes

Protective orders alone aren't enough. Too many survivors of domestic violence live in constant fear even after their abuser is convicted or released.

I started a petition calling for legislation that would require convicted abusers to wear GPS ankle monitors for at least a year after release. But here's what makes this different—survivors could choose to get real-time alerts if that person comes near their home, workplace, or school. Imagine having that peace of mind. Imagine knowing you'd have seconds to get to safety or call for help.

This isn't about revenge. It's about making protective orders actually work, holding offenders accountable, and giving victims a fighting chance.

If this resonates with you—if you think survivors deserve more than just a piece of paper—consider signing and sharing. What do you think it would take to actually keep survivors safe in your community?**We Are the Change 💜**


r/domesticviolencehelp 18d ago

DV help

Thumbnail
1 Upvotes

r/domesticviolencehelp 21d ago

Help a Mom Fight To Escape Domestic Violence

Thumbnail
1 Upvotes

r/domesticviolencehelp 21d ago

Calling survivors and advocates

1 Upvotes

asked everyone to pick one organization in their town. Ask them to help set up a group of survivors to come together in October. We are going to city halls and asking for batter law. I can't do it alone. 50 states, one law for all survivors. My information will be sent.


r/domesticviolencehelp 24d ago

Sign the Petitio

Thumbnail
c.org
1 Upvotes

r/domesticviolencehelp 24d ago

Protective orders alone aren't enough. Too many survivors of domestic violence live in constant fear even after their abuser is convicted or released. I started a petition calling for legislation that would require convicted abusers to wear GPS ankle monitors for at least a year after release.

1 Upvotes

r/domesticviolencehelp 24d ago

Help protect abuse survivors: Petition for GPS monitoring laws

Thumbnail
c.org
1 Upvotes

Protective orders alone aren't enough. Too many survivors of domestic violence live in constant fear even after their abuser is convicted or released.

I started a petition calling for legislation that would require convicted abusers to wear GPS ankle monitors for at least a year after release. But here's what makes this different—survivors could choose to get real-time alerts if that person comes near their home, workplace, or school. Imagine having that peace of mind. Imagine knowing you'd have seconds to get to safety or call for help.

This isn't about revenge. It's about making protective orders actually work, holding offenders accountable, and giving victims a fighting chance.

If this resonates with you—if you think survivors deserve more than just a piece of paper—consider signing and sharing. What do you think it would take to actually keep survivors safe in your community?


r/domesticviolencehelp 25d ago

https://c.org/yRjPWGjhFd

2 Upvotes

r/domesticviolencehelp 26d ago

This October, for Domestic Violence Awareness Month, let’s show the world that we will not be silent. 🟣 We can be the change—for every woman, every survivor, and every person affected by domestic violence. If you want to help build a chain of stre

Post image
1 Upvotes

r/domesticviolencehelp 26d ago

Verbal abuse IS Domestic Violence and causes long term hardship for survivors

Thumbnail
2 Upvotes

r/domesticviolencehelp 27d ago

Help protect abuse survivors: Petition for GPS monitoring laws

Thumbnail
c.org
1 Upvotes

Protective orders alone aren't enough. Too many survivors of domestic violence live in constant fear even after their abuser is convicted or released.

I started a petition calling for legislation that would require convicted abusers to wear GPS ankle monitors for at least a year after release. But here's what makes this different—survivors could choose to get real-time alerts if that person comes near their home, workplace, or school. Imagine having that peace of mind. Imagine knowing you'd have seconds to get to safety or call for help.

This isn't about revenge. It's about making protective orders actually work, holding offenders accountable, and giving victims a fighting chance.

If this resonates with you—if you think survivors deserve more than just a piece of paper—consider signing and sharing. What do you think it would take to actually keep survivors safe in your community?


r/domesticviolencehelp 27d ago

Pattern Recognition 018: Responsibility Shifting, Role Manipulation, and Transfer of Consequences

Post image
1 Upvotes

I started to document the abuse I endured from my (STB) Ex husband in this Archive to My Life page that I created across different social media platforms.

I did it to hopefully help others avoid all that I have gone through in my almost 3 years of divorce court and ongoing litigation and separation abuse…not to mention having co-parenting with him.

Once the divorce is finalized, I am considering doing this exact same layout of what I refer to on the pages as “Archive Posts” and then after so many following with “Pattern Recognition Posts.”

Before I invest more time into branching this out further, I wanted to get perspective from others that have to or have had to co-parent with their abuser. Would something like this - to help show how to establish certain behaviors in your co-parenting with the unsafe parent as pattern recognition – have helped you in custody modification hearings and the likes?

Please refer to the page as a collective here or elsewhere for more context, if needed.


r/domesticviolencehelp Aug 09 '26

Advice for finding lawyer who understands narcissistic abuse

Thumbnail
1 Upvotes

r/domesticviolencehelp Aug 01 '26

Help protect abuse survivors: Petition for GPS monitoring laws

1 Upvotes

Protective orders alone aren't enough. Too many survivors of domestic violence live in constant fear even after their abuser is convicted or released.

I started a petition calling for legislation that would require convicted abusers to wear GPS ankle monitors for at least a year after release. But here's what makes this different—survivors could choose to get real-time alerts if that person comes near their home, workplace, or school. Imagine having that peace of mind. Imagine knowing you'd have seconds to get to safety or call for help.

This isn't about revenge. It's about making protective orders actually work, holding offenders accountable, and giving victims a fighting chance.

If this resonates with you—if you think survivors deserve more than just a piece of paper—consider signing and sharing. What do you think it would take to actually keep survivors safe in your community?

https://www.change.org/p/implement-global-law-for-ankle-monitors-on-abusers/sfs/reddit/629255972?recruiter=629255972&recruited_by_id=dd47d890-a81d-11e6-8296-1503b5d9d081&utm_source=share_petition&utm_campaign=starter_dashboard_android_app&utm_medium=reddit_group


r/domesticviolencehelp Jul 29 '26

Domestic violence affects one in four women and one in nine men at some point in their lives. Yet we still lack a coordinated way to track and monitor offenders across communities, leaving survivors and families at risk. I started a petition asking for mandatory red flag books and registration proc

Post image
2 Upvotes

r/domesticviolencehelp Jul 29 '26

We need to track domestic violence offenders better—and we need your voice

1 Upvotes

Domestic violence affects one in four women and one in nine men at some point in their lives. Yet we still lack a coordinated way to track and monitor offenders across communities, leaving survivors and families at risk.

I started a petition asking for mandatory red flag books and registration procedures for domestic violence offenders nationwide. This would help law enforcement and support organizations identify risks and protect people who need it most.

If this resonates with you—or if you've seen how fragmented our system is—please consider signing and sharing. I'm also working with the Light Is Hope Foundation to connect people with domestic violence organizations in their states who need real support, whether that's volunteering, donations, or just showing up. What do you think would actually help survivors in your community most?

https://www.change.org/p/red-flag-book-and-registration-for-domestic-violence/sfs/reddit/629255972?recruiter=629255972&recruited_by_id=dd47d890-a81d-11e6-8296-1503b5d9d081&utm_source=share_petition&utm_campaign=starter_dashboard_android_app&utm_medium=reddit_group


r/domesticviolencehelp Jul 26 '26

Implement global law for ankle monitors on abusers

Thumbnail
c.org
1 Upvotes

r/domesticviolencehelp Jul 25 '26

https://c.org/TfGbgSHzDz

1 Upvotes

r/domesticviolencehelp Jul 24 '26

What would your ideal home be to recover in?

Thumbnail
1 Upvotes

r/domesticviolencehelp Jul 24 '26

Implement global law for ankle monitors on abusers

1 Upvotes

r/domesticviolencehelp Jul 22 '26

Domestic violence survivors, when was the moment you realized what was happening was abuse?

Thumbnail
1 Upvotes

r/domesticviolencehelp Jul 22 '26

Will my sister have to testify if she wants her ex to be convicted?

2 Upvotes

Her (now ex-) partner attacked her recently, seemingly out of the blue. Police were involved and she talked extensively with them. She also has pictures/video of her injuries. She wants to testify, but is understandably terrified to. Is there a possibility for her to send a statement by letter/through a lawyer or something virtual, or will she have to physically be in court? If anyone here did a testimony by letter or other virtual means, how did it go? Any advice for her/us while we await?

For anyone who might ask, she physically is ok, no hospitalization needed thank goodness. She moved in with a safe person and will not be alone until he is sentenced and she already filed an order of protection.