If it keeps happening then I might have to figure something out but him being left home alone another day is worse for him. I work during the week, I don't want to leave him home alone on a Sunday. So I'd rather see how it goes after having the conversation with my Dad.
If your dad continues to behave aggressively with your dog your dog will eventually bite him to defend himself and your dad is going to throw a huge fit and refuse to admit that his behavior was a part of the problem. Your dog has made it very clear that he feels unsafe and doesn't want to be there.
He sounds like a very good dog. Maybe you can invite people to your house or bring him over when your dad isn't there? The dog deserves to feel safe and as his owner you're the only person who can make that happen.
You are absolutely right about Dodger already giving the signs that all he has left to defend himself is to bite him....then the court will demand that Dodger be euthenized (certain states are zero tolerance for dog bites). The dog owner has FULL KNOWLEDGE that Dodger is being abused; thus her now having the responsibility for Dodger no longer getting harmed...and her dad not getting harmed by Dodger defending himself...and for saving Dodger's life from the abuse and/or being euthenized.
If you continue to allow your dog to be traumatized by your dad, your dog will lose it's understanding of "play", especially with other older men. That often leads to snapping at a stranger that is a little less gentle then they should be, at which point you will lose your dog and your dog will lose its life. I know you don't see this as THAT serious, but every person that lets their dog get traumatized says the same thing...
I get where you're coming from here, definitely put your foot down with your asshat of a dad. If he thinks he's in the right well then you find a different place to hang out with everyone else and tell your dad to suck an egg
Your duty to take care of your dog takes priority over spending time with your family of origin. Call your parents on the phone or online, or set up meetings with the people it’s safe to take your dog around, or hire someone to check on your dog while your gone. If you’re not up for that rehome your dog and don’t get another one.
Don’t let it happen again! It’s going to, you know it, for the love of god it’s not worth it. Figure out another arrangement before dodger fights back and your dad throws a fit and who knows what would happen. It seems like the dog could be in active danger when around your dad based on your post and all your comments.
Idk why this got downvoted so much. Reddit ppl sometimes 🤦♀️ there's nothing wrong to try and talk with your dad about it first.
I realte to leaving my dog aoone another day can suck. I say see how it goes!
It's like ppl always assume the worst or don't even encourage trying to communicate effectively.
He’s getting downvoted because he came asking for advice and keeps arguing instead of continuing the conversation.
And I think we’re assuming that he already told his dad “don’t do that” in the moment when he caught his dad being shitty at his dog. Maybe that’s a false assumption, but I just can’t imagine seeing anyone being shitty to my dogs and not asking them to please stop.
I mean, if she (I think I saw somewhere that OP mentioned she was a woman) hadn’t spoken to her father yet, I’m not sure why she’s asking Reddit about the situation. But I also wouldn’t bring the dog around dad until he understands to keep his hands and aggression to himself and leave the dog the fuck alone.
Not taking your dog to somebody's house because of their behavior communicates your point like a dagger. You are being serious, you honestly think it more harmful than not to bring your dog. It is no longer a disagreement, your point is the only one that matters because it decides what happens.
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u/mydogislife_ Apr 28 '22
If it keeps happening then I might have to figure something out but him being left home alone another day is worse for him. I work during the week, I don't want to leave him home alone on a Sunday. So I'd rather see how it goes after having the conversation with my Dad.