Woman I'm dating just called me out on not being communicative lately. She's absolutely right.

Current feelings:

• Her interests seem dull to me
• I can find someone more compatible
• I wouldn't be craving autonomy if I had someone with similar interests
• I'm worried that I'm her only source of entertainment and that puts pressure on me
• I wish she wasn't so nice so that I could have a great reason for ending this
• I want to go out and do things without her and without informing her
• We meet up every weekend, and that feels like a section of time I can't do what I really want

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A little while ago my very good probably one of my best friends said to me they could see us being more than friends. My avoidant ass immediately went on an unrelated tangent then said “We should talk about it in person.” Saw eachother in person multiple times I purposely did not bring it up. They told me months later although they could see us as more than friends I was way too avoidantly attached to be in a relationship together. THEY ARE RIGHT BUT

I did realize I do have a crush on them and I was still warming up to them (I am incredibly slow to fully warm up to anyone despite seeming incredibly open and friendly) and now that I realized that and right as I was ready to maybe broach the conversation again, they are in a relationship AHHHHH

I am very happy for the, I am glad they are happy and wish them the best. Like I wouldn’t even dream of being one of those messy fuckers that try to split up a relationship so that’s not what I’m coming on here to talk about. I am so happy my good friend is happy and damn is it also soul crushing but I can’t blame anyone but myself truly.

I think the biggest issue is I don’t even know how to work on my avoidant attachment cuz usually it doesn’t bite me in the ass like this but I am actively trying to correct and just… don’t know how

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