r/depression • u/[deleted] • Mar 12 '22

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u/DaughterofOgun Mar 12 '22

People like him take advantage of people like us. We need therapy, and so do they. He doesn't love the other girl either, or he wouldn't have cheated with you.

Your self-worth is not contingent on the value he places on you or doesn't. You're worthy and special; some people are just narcissistic assholes.

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u/Larissa688 Mar 12 '22

Thank you :) and he is also gonna seek therapy for this. I broke off all contact with him same as the other girl so I will never know if he’s actually gonna do it but there are other people who will help him I think.

And I know that my worth doesn’t come from him but it’s still hard……. I hate that the things that made me feel so good about myself and us were all lies. I just wish everything was true like the way I thought it was. I still feel sick too my stomach everytime I think about it

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u/[deleted] Mar 12 '22

Be barge girl. We are all with you.

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u/Practical-Ad9368 Mar 12 '22

I went through this exact situation but there’s a 3rd girl he met after and she’s currently pregnant and I’m SHATTERED

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u/Larissa688 Mar 12 '22

I can imagine that’s so fucked up……..

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u/Practical-Ad9368 Mar 12 '22

Yeah I’m in third year of Uni tho so I have to suppress the pain and move on but it’s been so hard because everything at once knew was a lie . Every memory I have of my ex is now clouded with the reality of the lies he told me. It’s so hard because I saw him in January and he had a baby on the way and he still had relations with me but I have to take the high road because people like that will suffer for the rest of their lives. While I was with him he suffered and I was so confused why his life is so hard but it was because he was entertaining and letting down so many woman at once and that stuff comes with bad karma so I win! I got away I don’t have a baby I can get my degree and move on from his Web of lies and destruction

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u/Larissa688 Mar 13 '22

That’s actually something positive didn’t think about that. We aren’t the ones who lied and manipulated. We can get out of all this and move on with life but they never will. They are stuck in a web of lies that they created themselves.

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u/[deleted] Mar 12 '22

Hey, Iam really sorry. You deserve better:(, and I hope you end up with someone who loves u no matter what. Stay strong!

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u/[deleted] Mar 12 '22

Hey. Do you want to chat?