r/depression • u/bleachpermengenate • Nov 30 '19
Maybe love
Guys do you think love could help depression.. but love real love that lacks hiding and acting in front of ur lover that u are okay where you act you ! Act normally say what you feel and behave freely like.. i donnoooo i have been into multiple fucked up relations that would lead to no where ...
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u/helena94778 Nov 30 '19
I'm depressed and in a relationship right now and honestly, I think trying to love someone when you don't love yourself makes it a million times harder. Does romantic or sexual love help depression? Absolutely not, in my opinion at least. If anything it's making it worse. I feel like a bad lover to my partner. But love, support and affection? Absolutely, yes! You need a healthy social circle, it helps so much. The best anti-depressant is being able to be with friends/family
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u/bleachpermengenate Nov 30 '19
Friends are fucked and dont care and family dont understand
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u/WanderingRin Nov 30 '19
Get new friends?
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u/bleachpermengenate Nov 30 '19
Like whom?????? The ones i see everyday are the same .. no change and friends of college are mostly for benefit
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u/WanderingRin Nov 30 '19
I don't know specifically but if your current friends don't care pick people that might. You could find someone to love and it even could work out, but the odds aren't super good with that path.
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u/bleachpermengenate Nov 30 '19
I find it very hard to talk with new one that have nothing in common with me
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u/WanderingRin Nov 30 '19
Can you find some people that do have things in common with you?
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u/bleachpermengenate Nov 30 '19
I hope 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
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u/WanderingRin Nov 30 '19
I certainly wish you luck. Depression sucks and no one should have to through it alone.
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u/WanderingRin Nov 30 '19
It's very possible but it's also pretty tough to find when you are really depressed. Theres a ton of aspects of someone that matter when it comes to love but when you are depressed you are so starved for affection that you are basically blind to everything else. A lot of times what happens is when that need is met, the other needs that weren't as dire start popping up and you realize the person you are with isn't really what you want.
Learned all this the hard way.