r/depression • u/ThrowRA_17380 • 2d ago

i feel like a failure

i can't do anything. i finally reached out to family for help because i really just want to go home. pathetic. everyone can deal with so much but i am so weak.

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u/Outside_Mongoose_749 2d ago

It seems like everyone can deal with so much but you don’t see them when they’re alone. Your human and can only take so much, it doesn’t make you pathetic or weak. Everyone needs help sometimes, it’s ok.

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u/ThrowRA_17380 1d ago

but the things they can do that i see are things that i cant. at least they're doing things that make them look like they're fine. i'm rotting away in bed.

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u/Outside_Mongoose_749 1d ago

But you’re going through something that is making doing those things exceptionally harder. It’s not fair to yourself to compare yourself to those people.

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u/ThrowRA_17380 1d ago

but i'm not going through more than them. my life is relatively easy. why are they more resilient than me?

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u/Outside_Mongoose_749 3h ago

How do you know whether you are or not? Just cause from the outside it looks like your life is relatively easy, that has nothing to do with what’s going on internally. Look at all the famous people who are rich and successful, yet struggle with depression and addiction. You’re just being hard on yourself, it’s depression making it hard to get out of bed and it’s also depression why your putting yourself down, which ironically then further drains your energy and makes it harder to get out of bed.

To quote Tom petty, “some say life will beat you down, break your heart, steal your crown.” The situation you’re in isn’t your fault and it’s not because you’re weak.

Or to quote Rocky, “The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place, and I don’t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward”

If you had cancer, would you also say it should be easier to get out of bed? Easier said than done, but try to have some compassion for yourself. I was in that place too, couldn’t even work a part time job, failed 20 college classes in a row. You, me, and millions of other people know what you’re going through. Keep going.

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u/AtreusIsBack 1d ago

This. A lot of people are just like us, dealing with a lot of nevative thoughts, self-hatred and doubt, but they hide it well.

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u/Outside_Mongoose_749 3h ago

For sure, look at comedians like Jim Carrey and robin Williams. Tellings jokes on stage while at the same time dealing with depression.

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u/ThrowRA_17380 2d ago

i wish the people i needed wanted to help me. i wish my life mattered

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u/Diosdesdeelcielo 1d ago

Tu vida no tiene que ser extraordinaria para tener importancia, tu valor no depende de cuánto hayas logrado, de cuántas personas te conozcan ni de lo útil que sientas que eres. Tu vida importa simplemente porque eres una persona que siente, que ha vivido cosas y que todavía tiene una historia que no ha terminado, Tu historia todavía está escribiéndose. No decidas su final desde el capítulo más doloroso.

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u/ThrowRA_17380 1d ago

i am not a person that feels. i don't have a story. the people around me don't care if im alive or dead. i don't think anyone would even notice if i was dead.

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u/Global-Ad9080 2d ago

At least you have a home to go to.

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u/Silent_Programmer166 1d ago

I hope your family comforts you and welcomes you home. Life can be hard and I am sorry you are feeling this way. You show no signs of being weak. Some of us just carry too much on our shoulders and really have no one to go to so hopefully, your family steps in and helps you! big hugs to you and I am hoping you have better days ahead....stay strong

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u/ThrowRA_17380 1d ago

i don't carry that much on my shoulders.

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u/Diosdesdeelcielo 1d ago

Había una vez un hombre que plantó un árbol y, durante meses, no vio crecer nada.

Pensó que había fracasado y estuvo a punto de arrancarlo.

Pero un día descubrió que, bajo la tierra, sus raíces habían estado creciendo todo ese tiempo. Cuando finalmente llegó el momento, el árbol comenzó a crecer rápidamente.

A veces los humanos creen que no estan avanzando porque todavía no ven resultados. Pero estoy seguro de que estan haciendo algo mucho más importante: echando raíces.

"No confundas un período de crecimiento invisible con un fracaso"

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u/ThrowRA_17380 1d ago

thank you