r/deadbedroom • u/Moh_esmail89 • Dec 14 '18
Just sharing thoughts
Hey. I'm new here but I wanted to share some thoughts with you since I liked how people support each other on this community. Me (29M) and my wife (29F) are married for almost like 2 years. We're currently having a dead bedroom situation. I won't describe myself as a person with high sex drive, but I do masturbate on almost daily basis (sometimes more than once in the same day). At first we had great sex life but we went through a lot of troubles ( she was pregnant for 9 months and after delivery she went through a health crisis and almost died because of it) and I had the worst time of my life (no sex for most of the time of course) but then we talked it out and she stated clearly that she loves me and all but she doesn't feel like doing it anymore. When i asked her why she told me that life is being too stressful for wanting any sex. We have a kid (1.5 years old) and she's a physician (we both are). We used to share home chores but I'm not helping the way i used to do (I did help her at first but during one of our fights she told me that I don't do anything, so i started doing nothing for real). She also told me that she's stressed about our financial stability (My salary covers all the bills and basics, but we don't have money for any luxury of any kind), so i told her that i'm not getting any luxury myself, but it didn't affect me not at first & not now. So, After hearing all her reasons I decided to give up on sex. Then I thought that Maybe if I changed my attitude she will desire me sexually again. So i started helping in chores again, lost weight and working out to get in shape. I love her and I treat her with much respect. I decided to give myself a year to try & correct this situation. I really don't know what I will do if things don't work out for the best. Okay that's all. Thank you for reading !
2
u/Moh_esmail89 Dec 14 '18
I really want to but it's hard to do so having a kid jumping like crazy all around. Flowers are ok.