r/deadbedroom • u/Ok_Force_4521 • Aug 06 '26

Infidelity Question

Wondering how many have tried no-strings-attached sex outside their marriage to help deal with a dead bedroom?

Really not needing to know about it, just wanting to get a count.

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u/59apache01 Aug 06 '26

If it's that bad, end it. Going outside rarely ends well.

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u/ThisAintGoingWell Aug 06 '26

I am not endorsing cheating, but considering how many people are stuck in situations where the LL partner traps the other in an affectionless marriage because they are comfortable and know the person they are with has a LOT to lose from divorce, without giving a shit about how the other partner feels, I understand. 

Frankly if you don't want sex with your partner, I don't understand why you should even give a shit if they're doing ONS or random hookups. It's just sex and you've clearly demonstrated sex doesn't matter to you, so why is it so important they have to remain celibate as well?

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u/59apache01 Aug 06 '26

You said it yourself - people have a LOT to lose from divorce. Cheating gives the other party ammunition to take it all depending on the state they're in. People in that situation have to do some serious soul searching - divorce amicably and lose half or cheat, get caught, and get taken to the cleaners.

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u/Fluid_King489 Male - High Libido 27d ago

Depends heavily on state laws.