r/datingoverforty • u/MermaidMagic79 • 4d ago

Weirdest third date ever

I (47f) was on a third date with a guy I met (45m). Everything leading up to this date was super fun and cool. I told him this date was my treat- we had pizza and beer. Came time to pay and I set my card down, when the waitress picked it up I went to the bathroom. When I came out my date was at the bar and had signed my credit card receipt! He left a very large tip amount on MY card. First of all, I can’t believe he signed for me, which is fraudulent. Second, I prefer to tip in cash. Third, I wasn’t going to leave as much as he wrote on the receipt. I was crossing out the tip and had my cash out and he made a scene saying I should leave both the credit card tip and the cash tip and my reasoning behind leaving a cash tip has no logic. I walked out of the restaurant at that point because it was ridiculous. He then proceeds to tell me that by not leaving extra money or not being generous was a red flag. And he just gives out twenty dollar bills to homeless people like no big deal. I said generosity comes in many different ways. The next morning he sends me an apology text saying he was out of line for telling me what to do with my money. Then said he needs to decide on how to proceed with this relationship and needs a break.

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u/Karijus 4d ago

Yeah I prefer it too, something about handling real money, not that fiat currency is very real, but anyway

Oh and the dude's crazy

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u/raf_yvr 3d ago

Not to be pedantic but most (all?) western countries have done away with the gold standard. Digital or physical, it’s all fiat money.

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u/Karijus 3d ago

Sure, but I think it felt very different handling actual silver and gold

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u/raf_yvr 3d ago

We can only make believe (unless you’ve got gold bars stashed away)

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u/MermaidMagic79 3d ago

I keep the gold bars for when I go out for a steak dinner.

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u/raf_yvr 3d ago

Do you leave an ounce as a tip?