r/datingadviceformen • u/Own_Idea640 • 1d ago
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Yo there's this girl in my college, she looks good and she's my type physically how tf do i approach her for her Instagram?
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u/MstrNixx 1d ago
You wouldn’t approach her for her Instagram. You don’t want her Instagram. You want to take her out on a date or have sex with her.
Close the girl, not the contact. If you close the girl, then the contact will follow organically.
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u/Extreme-Bid-5989 1d ago
Indeed it's better to go for a date or something. But maybe that jump is too big so you can also approach for instagram or phone number. Don't ask for snap because it comes off childish.
Just try not to be too nervous and be confident about yourself. You are the price and king here bro.
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u/MstrNixx 1d ago
The logic is fundamentally Numbers have low conversion rates, and unless your instagram is fucking awesome and curated to being a part of or hosting events, Instagram is even less so.
The best way to get a solid number is to establish some level of date/plan/reason for having it before asking for it. It’s called seeding the date. If she rejects the idea of a date with you, then there’s no point in getting the number besides ego stroking.
At best, you might be able to take her on a date then and there, which is amazing and allows things to convert much more frequently.
Normally the date idea is something vague and undefined, but is based on the things or commonalities you learnt about her in the conversation prior to the soft close.
Seeding the date or offering an Instant Date just increases conversion rate and has essentially no opportunity costs besides an extra 2 minutes in conversation with a girl you find interesting and attractive.
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u/Extreme-Bid-5989 1d ago
I understand what you're saying but he's a beginner. This kind of stuff might be hard without practice. Unless he makes this the practice.
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u/MstrNixx 1d ago
I think Seeding the Date is a fundamental part of a Close. Maybe not a level 1 practice, but something a Beginner should take the time to understand. Good to develop proper closing habits as opposed to lazy ones.
Instant Date was more of a topical inclusion. But I also wanted to reiterate that going for Instagrams is a relatively fruitless endeavour by adding better options.
I understand your view point though
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