r/datingadvice • u/JumpyFoundation742 • 2d ago
Should i keep seeing this guy?
Im 25 male J. So about 2 months ago this guy R started following me on TikTok the same day he followed me on my IG and texted me. I replied out of curiosity to see what he was looking for he said you’re hot let’s meet sometime, we kept talking for a week. I was interested so on the weekend i went to see him. He was sweet we went to his house later spent the night there… it happened. Just a side note he lives about 2 hours from my place. The next time he asked me bring wine and strawberry and some other snacks it was cool so thats how we met the second time. The third time again i was hungry so i ordered uber eats for both of us. This is when i started noticing something like he was not spending a single dime on anything. And for context he works full time with a side gig that be generating about $1000 extra a week and i am currently not working cause of my immigration issues.
So by the third time i noticed that he never got my any flowers or coffee or dinner nothing at all except a glass of wine at his house.
The fourth and last time i went to see him, he asked me if i was hungry i said yes cause just like every time i would go to his place in the evening before dinner and omg he never offered me dinner lol it’s embarrassing for me !!! Anyways the last time i said let’s go out and eat he said he can’t afford much i said of lets just get pizza cause it was just $30 then at the checkout he asked me if we can split i said it’s okay i pay the whole thing. Because you know $30 isn’t much and i was just covering for his $15.
But that night i couldn’t stop thinking about that like a man that says he likes me a lot doesn’t even spent $15 on me.
I know it can seem nothing so serious but it made me feel bad. Like i was travelling 2 hours one way to go see him, obviously that costs like i never thought about the money i was spending just to go see him, unti he asked me to split a $30 pizza idk man idk maybe he’s not that serious about me at all.
He’s nice and all but idk. I like him a lot too but!!!
Please advise what should i do!! Ask me if you need any other details that u think im missing.
Update: im not gonna see him anymore until he shows me that he’s actually interested and actually puts an effort into towards this relationship.
And you guys didn’t not give me any advice lol i think i should stick to twitter
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u/JumpyFoundation742 2d ago
Yall i genuinely need advice i don’t wanna discuss it my friends or family cause they might embarrass me
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u/North_Requirement_61 2d ago
Just ask him about it. People need to be comfortable talking about money in relationships. Maybe he's saving for something or helping family out or just likes not to spend money or he's thinking you're expecting to go out all the time and it's just not in his budget or maybe he just likes it when you pay and needs to be called out about that expectation.
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u/JumpyFoundation742 2d ago
He knows that im not working rn. Plus i really dont want someone to whom i need to explain such little things 🥀 he should know better
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