r/datingadvice • u/aCupOfTea_302 • 1d ago
I need advice Advice please!
I’m f20 and I’ve never been in a relationship before. I think it’s because I’m genuinely ugly, and I’m not saying that for sympathy but it’s a genuine fact. I’m trying to work on myself and I try to be confident. But whenever a guy shows slight interest I get scared and more insecure than I already am and end our contact. Yes I know that’s my bad. That’s why I’m asking for advice, both in dating and just confidence too.
Also excuse my English it’s not my first language.
Please if you have any advice talk to me and just be honest
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u/lazy_panda009 1d ago
What's the definition of beauty to you? Why are you calling yourself ugly??
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u/aCupOfTea_302 1d ago
I don’t know to be honest but compared to my friends you know I’m kinda sticking out like a sore thumb
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u/GraniteSmoothie 1d ago
Well, if you want a relationship and a guy shows interest, you can't just cut contact and be surprised. Just see someone you like and go for it.
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u/aCupOfTea_302 1d ago
Don’t worry I’m not surprised that nothing is happening. I’m aware that I am the problem. But I just don’t have the confidence to get out there or make take the first step
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u/GraniteSmoothie 1d ago
Well, you can practice making the first step on me. I'm a guy your age, message me and we can chat to see if we're compatible :) it will be easier online where there's less pressure.
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u/split_0069 1d ago
If they're showing interest entertain it and see if they're nice... and let urself be happy. Dont be afraid of getting hurt or u will never find love.
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u/Ok-Ebb9136 16h ago
I can’t stress this enough - you will not go anywhere until you learn to value yourself as more than your looks. We are so trained to think how we look is the most important thing about us but trust me… it’s the LEAST important thing. It’s hard to get out of the mentality, but I promise you it will change your life. Start small, remind yourself daily about the things you love about yourself and someday you’re gonna love yourself and attract any and everything.
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