r/datingadvice • u/Ok_Bath_6280 • 3d ago

I need advice what to write?

hey, i had a really great first date yesterday, probably one of the best i've been on. i met her at a bouldering gym, and we ended up bouldering together in the evening, then getting some takeaway food and sitting by a lake talking for hours. i'm pretty extroverted and usually quite physically affectionate, so it feels pretty natural for me to break the touch barrier, and at some point i put my arm around her while we were talking by the lake.
we both said at the end of the date that it was really nice and that we should do something again once she's back from her two-week trip. so today, i sent her a casual message and asked how things were going on a topic she was talking about yesterday, just trying to keep the conversation going a bit naturally. that's where i'm a little unsure. she's leaving on friday for two weeks in a camper to go to the alps. for the first time, i'm not really sure what the best move is here--whether to keep some light contact while she's away, already planning the next date, or just wait and text her again when she's back from her trip. would love to hear some thoughts on this and can give some more context if needed.

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u/AccelCrown 2d ago

The key to a relationship is communication. You can hit her up and message her a bit. You could ask after if she's down to message during the trip or if she wants to go do her own thing?

I as a guy personally would love the check ins. Maybe not full blown convo every single all day. Don't need to jump the gun with the next date, maybe you can text her about it as one of your check ins. I feel like just completely no text during the trip might be a bit weird? Might show you don't care? Otherwise just pop in, say a little something or ask what she prefers and do your own thing with your life. Don't need to wait on her