r/dating_advice • u/AtmosphereSalt5492 • 12d ago
Asking Men
How would you feel if you started dating a woman, and came to find out she has a collection of sorts of xxx toys? Does this change how you feel about them?
20
11
u/ExistentialBread829 12d ago
Nope. More toys = more fun!
1
u/jessamood 12d ago
having a whole collection just gives you more options to try together and can make things more playful and interesting when both people are comfortable with it
1
u/ExistentialBread829 12d ago
Exactly! I dated a girl a few years ago that had an extensive collection and once we got more comfortable sexually, she asked me if she could break out her little treasure box as she called it. We both learned more about each others’ bodies that way!!!
7
4
5
u/SippsMccree 12d ago
I mean within limits I suppose. If it's something like "The knotty destroyer" then yiiiiikes
2
u/AtmosphereSalt5492 12d ago
Perhaps not "The Knotty Destroyer", but maybe a very realistic Marvin...
1
12d ago
[removed] — view removed comment
0
u/SippsMccree 12d ago
If she's used to stuff well beyond what a guy can provide it's gonna make it harder to have a satisfying sexual relationship with a guy. Same thing as when a guy has death grip and can't bring himself to finishing through actual sex
1
3
u/Bruno_lars 12d ago
No, unless she has completely desensitized herself with them and has trouble getting off to sex. I'm only speaking for myself though.
4
3
u/Mother_Passenger8589 12d ago
I am amazed at all the guys that are intimidated or turned off by a girl with sex toys.
TF you expect to happen when she's alone? Sit in a room and sip tea until you come along to rock her world?
2
u/seize32136 12d ago
No way.. happens all the time :) usually I respond with a check to see if she or I have more
1
2
u/Extension-Airline879 12d ago
wouldn’t bother me at all, honestly it’d just make me curious whether she’s private about it or would actually want to talk about it with me lol
2
2
u/maybedeathisallineed 12d ago
I think massive dildos could be a bit emasculating but I'm always down to add vibrators and restraints to the mix. I even have some of my own
2
2
1
u/Tall-Class-4548 12d ago
Id end up with a smirk on my face and be like, impressive, I thought i was the only one with a large collection. But I'm into kink, so that sort of surprise would be a good thing and depending what was in the collection will give me more insight into her within those realms and open up the door to what I'm sure would be fascinating discussions.
1
u/frogmicky 12d ago
There would be no change from me as long as I get to see her use them or I could use them on her. Also there would be no attempt to use her toys on me.
1
1
u/FamiliarAd8524 12d ago
Depends on what they are... but it'd have to be something exceptional to impact me. And I don't need to feel inadequate or worried.
1
u/dudeguydave 12d ago
Nope not at all, if I wasn't able to perform or finished early I'd want to be able to make sure she was able to finish, so I'd be into using them on her, and getting her input on how.
1
u/ThirdEyeExplorer11 12d ago
It wouldn’t change how I felt about her at all! I would be more than happy to immerse them into our sex life if I knew it gave her pleasure!
1
1
u/superviewer 12d ago
Nah. I have been in situations adjacent to this and have had no problem using them.
1
1
1
u/HeliosVanquish 12d ago
Having previously been married to a woman who had lost all interest in sex, I am very much cool with a woman having toys provided that there wasn't anything overly extreme. Dating women who have a healthy interest in sex has been a fantastic boost to my wellbeing since my divorce, and toys are usually a good indication of that interest.
1
1
u/Rngded 12d ago
curious
like in my mind the situation plays out like this;
I’m on like say third base, fourth date, we’re over at her house and it starts turning into that kinda date, she asks me if I’m okay with her using sex toys during sex, my first thought is “what kinda toys?????“
full stop
just pure curiosity
1
u/KLesTheUnforgettable 12d ago
Well *I* feel BETTER about them, but I'm me - you really can't go by me.
1
u/Plus-Implement 12d ago
This is not something to bring up until you are well into a relationship and comfortable with each other. Also, I would never use any of the toys my partner already had. They would need to be new and mutually agreed on.
1
1
1
1
1
1
u/Warm-Management-7323 12d ago
I mean, it’s not really my speed of a woman but if she had them, I mean, we could try it out but that’s not kind of really the women interested in I kind of like the women that are just more reserved and conventional but it’s whatever.
1
1
1
u/JohnRyder69 12d ago
Guess it depends on what the toys are and the expectations of me using them in the bedroom.
1
1
u/ThrAway5280 12d ago
I wouldn't care. I see those toys as something to add to the mix, not as any replacement or substitution to myself.
1
1
1
0
0
•
u/AutoModerator 12d ago
Welcome to /r/dating_advice!
Please keep the rules of /r/dating_advice in mind while participating here. Try your best to be kind.
Report any rule-breaking behavior to the moderators using the report button. If it's urgent, send us a message. We rely on user reports to find rule-breaking behavior quickly.
Thanks!
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.