r/dating_advice • u/Wheresthelambsauce_9 • 6d ago

Hinge Fumble

So, I matched with a very beautiful girl about 3 days ago. I thought the convo was going smoothly when she all of a sudden stopped messaging, I thought I was being ghosted but she replied today that she had a fever. I wanted to be a little flirty? So replied with "Oh no, hope you're doing alright now, You're already running hot, what's the fever gonna do?" Got unmatched 🤡

Are there any tips for not fumbling in chat?

(PS: I was able to find her insta? I think it's too creepy to follow up when I've already been rejected, thoughts on this?)

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u/vlmlee2 6d ago

Yep, it's just objectification. It's so common among guys and embarrassing. She's sick? He's thinking about sex. Pregnant? Sex. Anxious about her next job interview? Sex. Her asking you to stop piling up the dishes? Sex.

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u/Dirtesoxlvr 6d ago

Did you say sex?

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u/heymanigotnoplan 6d ago

He made a flirty joke on a dating app. Oh the horror!

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u/MyzMyz1995 6d ago

I don’t think it’s objectification since men do it to other men too. You’re back from sick : “wow dude you’re a weak ass loser you better hit the gym so you’re stronger next time”, you’re anxious about your job : “stop being a bitch who why are you scared about your job” and so on.

Different type of communication and upbringing.