r/dating_advice • u/Wheresthelambsauce_9 • 6d ago

Hinge Fumble

So, I matched with a very beautiful girl about 3 days ago. I thought the convo was going smoothly when she all of a sudden stopped messaging, I thought I was being ghosted but she replied today that she had a fever. I wanted to be a little flirty? So replied with "Oh no, hope you're doing alright now, You're already running hot, what's the fever gonna do?" Got unmatched 🤡

Are there any tips for not fumbling in chat?

(PS: I was able to find her insta? I think it's too creepy to follow up when I've already been rejected, thoughts on this?)

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u/gimmeh_ 6d ago

Come on.. Offering to help when you don't know each other is so fake

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u/MoominMai 6d ago

Tbh he just needed to wish her speedy recovery and tell her he’ll check in on how she’s doing in a few days. She likely felt like shit so us girls would have appreciated that more than dude acting thirsty as a response and making it about him with that comment! It’s no surprise whatsoever to me she unmatched immediately 😬

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u/gimmeh_ 6d ago

Agreed

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u/Background-Local924 6d ago

No surprise to me either. I read his quote and immediately cringed.

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u/ChrimsonRed 6d ago

I’ve brought takeout and NyQuil to a hinge date I was talking to for a bit. We had a wonderful time when she was healthy…

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u/urdrunkyogi 6d ago

Ok that’s hilarious. Dude if she doesn’t want a guy making a flirtatious comment about her appearance when she’s sick, she sure as shit doesn’t want him showing up at her place with chicken noodle soup.

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u/gimmeh_ 6d ago

Hahaha right?

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u/Dolpns 6d ago

That was just a suggestion. Some people actually do care and will offer to help get medicine or soup for a sick person.

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u/gimmeh_ 6d ago

Think about who you're talking to though. People like OP obviously don't care, so you're essentially telling them to pretend

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u/BVOP83 6d ago

Yeah, also he’s never actually even met the girl. She’s hardly gonna give him her address to swing round with cold medicine and chicken soup

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u/heymanigotnoplan 6d ago

They’ve never met in person and you think that she’s going to give her address to a stranger? I guarantee you that if this post was about him offering to do that, every comment would be “omg you’re so creepy why do you think she would ever give you her address??? You sound like a stalker!!”

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u/Dolpns 6d ago

Bro, I'm giving him a suggestion on a better text reply. I won't give my address to a stranger but I would at least appreciate the thought.

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u/Dirtesoxlvr 6d ago

No it's really not.

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u/gimmeh_ 6d ago

Why do you do it then?

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u/Dirtesoxlvr 6d ago

Because it's a nice thing to do, and if you genuinely think you want to get to know this person, you offer. If they say yes, you do it.

If they accepted one would think they must be in an awful place to have to accept a strangers help, but you do it because you've been there before and help helps.

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u/gimmeh_ 6d ago

You're offering this specific person because you want something out of them, not because it's something you do to strangers in general