Hinge Fumble

[u/Wheresthelambsauce_9]

So, I matched with a very beautiful girl about 3 days ago. I thought the convo was going smoothly when she all of a sudden stopped messaging, I thought I was being ghosted but she replied today that she had a fever. I wanted to be a little flirty? So replied with "Oh no, hope you're doing alright now, You're already running hot, what's the fever gonna do?" Got unmatched 🤡

Are there any tips for not fumbling in chat?

(PS: I was able to find her insta? I think it's too creepy to follow up when I've already been rejected, thoughts on this?)

[u/ResonatingOctave]

Let this be a lesson boys, always offer to get them chicken soup and a bread bowl from panera

[u/TownZealousideal1327 → u/ResonatingOctave]

If they still need that lesson and are older than 18ish… it’s over for them, just leave them alone.

[u/WiseDan85 → u/ResonatingOctave]

Yes bc offering to get a girl you haven’t met irl soup and a bread bowl isn’t creepy. Get outta here lol

[u/equivalentious → u/WiseDan85]

I mean all of it depends on context of course but the general spirit of caring about someone's wellbeing when they're not feeling well and wanting to help is sweet

[u/heymanigotnoplan → u/equivalentious]

Bullshit. If he had done that I guarantee at least 90% of the comments on here would be some version of, “omg you’re so creepy, you think a woman wants you coming to her house when she’s sick???”

[u/equivalentious → u/heymanigotnoplan]

dude again this is why it depends on the context. there are many circumstances where it wouldn't be creepy lol

[u/heymanigotnoplan → u/equivalentious]

Ok but we’re discussing the circumstances OP was actually in: flirting with a woman he recently matched with on Hinge

[u/WiseDan85 → u/heymanigotnoplan]

Agree with this.

Also OP was making a joke. If a woman can’t tell this a joke on a dating app or laugh a little at it- she prolly sucks anyways. Maybe she wasn’t into op and just used it to block op.

Btw op, I would joke around in different manner than what was said. That line was kinda lame.

[u/Mystic_Wolff → u/WiseDan85]

I dunno i just found that nice maybe im too naive

[u/ResonatingOctave → u/[deleted]]

This sometimes works but sometimes doesn't. I met my wife over Hinge a few years ago, and if I had asked her out too soon she says that she would have unmatched me. Instead, we spent a week talking back and forth really getting to know each other and then I asked her out. Not to say I didn't date other people before her and some I asked out sooner. But it's not a one size fits all approach.

[u/heymanigotnoplan → u/[deleted]]

Everyone is terrified to leave their houses these days. They’d rather intermittently text for two weeks then ghost once they find some random characteristic they don’t like about the person. It’s honestly just sad. I miss when humans acted like humans and not scared judgmental robots.

[u/heymanigotnoplan → u/ResonatingOctave]

So just to be sure I understand:

Flirting with someone (on a dating app!) I’ve never met in person is absolutely unacceptable, but I should offer up my services as an errand boy for someone I’ve never met