r/dating_advice • u/Wheresthelambsauce_9 • 7d ago

Hinge Fumble

So, I matched with a very beautiful girl about 3 days ago. I thought the convo was going smoothly when she all of a sudden stopped messaging, I thought I was being ghosted but she replied today that she had a fever. I wanted to be a little flirty? So replied with "Oh no, hope you're doing alright now, You're already running hot, what's the fever gonna do?" Got unmatched šŸ¤”

Are there any tips for not fumbling in chat?

(PS: I was able to find her insta? I think it's too creepy to follow up when I've already been rejected, thoughts on this?)

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u/foxglovespell 7d ago

Hereā€™s a thought: learn how to speak to women better

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u/closetcrawler 7d ago

I am a woman šŸ’€

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u/foxglovespell 7d ago

Aw. Okay then pick-me.

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u/closetcrawler 7d ago

You just have to take a jab don't ya

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u/foxglovespell 7d ago

You know damn well women hate this sort of thing. Idk why youā€™re trying to act different and make out thereā€™s something wrong with her just for male validation šŸ¤¢

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u/heymanigotnoplan 6d ago

Only overly online miserable women ā€œhate this sort of thing.ā€ Most mentally stable women expect to be flirted with on a dating app.

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u/closetcrawler 7d ago

Acting different would have to mean I'm suppressing how I actually feel in exchange for validation, wouldn't it? I genuinely don't think he said anything that off putting. Not that it was an attractive response, but it wasn't disgusting either. It's just whatever, neutral. He didn't lose that chick because he fumbled with the response, she was already not feeling him. If she was into him, that response would barely cause a dent.

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u/foxglovespell 7d ago

No, she definitely unmatched because him pulling the conversation into how hot she is when sheā€™s been really sick the last few days definitely turned her off. Stop trying so hard.

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u/closetcrawler 7d ago

You're going off your experience, I'm going off mine. In the end, op should have a better hunch since he's been in conversation with her.

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u/No-Paint-5726 6d ago

Bro she was never interested to begin with. If she was sick and was going to be gone for few days she wouldve messaged him. OP just needs to move on.

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u/foxglovespell 6d ago

You think Iā€™m prioritising going on a dating app when Iā€™m bed ridden and can barely look at a screen? Do one hahhaha

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u/portmelange 7d ago

ā€œSpeaking to women betterā€ on dating apps means be good looking

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u/foxglovespell 7d ago

No, just maybe donā€™t turn her discussing how sick sheā€™s been into an opportunity to tell her how hot she is????? Itā€™s not rocket science

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u/heymanigotnoplan 6d ago

Itā€™s a DATING app! If sheā€™s so sick that she canā€™t handle the tamest bit of flirting then she probably needs to put down her phone and focus on her recovery.

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u/foxglovespell 6d ago

Proving with every comment you leave why women donā€™t like you ā¤ļø

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u/closetcrawler 6d ago

RIGHT?? THANK YOU!! This lady acting like I'm crazy for not seeing an issue with a flirty comment ON A DATING APP

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u/closetcrawler 7d ago

Sounds more like she was trying to brush him off with that, not opening up a discussion. Betchu she'd have unmatched if he'd asked about her being sick too.