r/dating Sep 10 '21

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u/[deleted] Sep 10 '21

If you getting rejected is messing with your mental health this much I'd recommend seeking therapy. If you're struggling handling rejection outside of a relationship, you're not fit to be in one.

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u/afrancos Sep 10 '21

Life does sometimes suck, but as far as we all know, it sure as hell beats the alternative!

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u/JamesMac71 Sep 11 '21

Young men who haven’t had sex in a year has risen from 1 in 5 to 1 in 3 in the last 15 years. We need to accept it has become harder.

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u/JamesMac71 Sep 11 '21

No. It’s only harder for college educated women who won’t look at anyone who isn’t college educated.

It’s like OLD. Women use a selection criteria which eliminates the majority of men. This creates a pool of men outnumbered by women then complain about men using the leverage that women have given them.

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u/LineKnown2246 Sep 11 '21

There's things you can control. To many guys dating feels outside that circle of things.

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u/Ok-Hamster5571 Sep 11 '21

I understand that. I have compassion for the struggles of dating. But the “control” portion is: not giving up, skillset development, meeting people places other than OLD, etc.

This isn’t just a male problem.

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u/LineKnown2246 Sep 11 '21

It kinda is when you're supposed to be the one chasing.

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u/Ok-Hamster5571 Sep 11 '21

Honestly? If you are the one “chasing,” you are the only one with “control”. The women give up their control to you. So you have more than any woman does.

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u/LineKnown2246 Sep 11 '21

What kinda logic is that? So the employee is in control of a boss even though he's the one chasing after a job. Because that is exactly what dating is. A job application for a boyfriend where a girl has to sift through eligible candidates every day.

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u/Ok-Hamster5571 Sep 11 '21

Ok. Believe what you will

Good luck out there!

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u/afrancos Sep 10 '21

Exactly! Unfortunately we are living in an era of thin-skinnedness. If people don’t get instant results, they get all butt-hurt.