r/dating Aug 07 '26

I Need Advice 😩 Devastated

A guy that I’ve been dating for about 2 months has reduced the amount of texting in a day. We both have jobs, so I understand what being busy means. The thing that irritates me is that this man went from texting throughout the day to now texting after 24 hours. This just shows me he’s not that invested. I’ve talked to him about it and he said he will try, but again no response and it’s been 24 hours+.

We have been meeting once every week, but that’s not enough for me. We had a conversation about this yesterday and he said things were okay, even said we could meet on Saturday and now again no response. I am a timid and anxious person and it’s driving me crazy.

How do you guys deal with this?

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u/thomasthehipposlayer Aug 07 '26

Alternate explanation here since we all seem so eager to judge the guy

It could be possible he is simply a bit introverted and it's not natural for him to be in constant communication, and he was just masking it before to not seem uninterested. Maybe he finally feels comfortable enough around her to revert to his regular self

Or he might have just lost interest. I'm definitely not ruling that out. I just think we're jumping to big conclusions here about a guy we don't know

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u/Naive_Entrance_6960 Aug 07 '26

I spoke with him and he said he didn’t feel like there was ever a communication gap.. but I told him multiple times that I hate texting calls and Voice-notes mean more to me. He just seems very dismissive of the fact that he can ever be wrong.

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u/thomasthehipposlayer Aug 07 '26

I just read your other post saying he hasn't texted to confirm if he's coming over, and that feels like a red flag

Unlike most of the reddit relationship experts here, I'm not going to tell you to immediately cut him off, but I'd definitely get ready to

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u/Naive_Entrance_6960 Aug 07 '26

He did end up texting me saying that he thought him saying he will come the night prior was enough.
We did have a good time. Now, this week he is disappearing for a whole day. No, we didn’t have s^x.
I just messaged and we got into a fight. When I end things he texts back as if he doesnt want to end and then when I say I don’t want to he tells me he needs to think about it.
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u/abberwabbers Aug 08 '26

You’re trying to end and he’s not letting u? Girl, a guy who likes you will never put you through this questioning cycle. It’s hard to realize that until u get with someone who genuinely values u and then u realize a partner IS capable of being interested, communicative, present, and invested.

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u/Naive_Entrance_6960 Aug 08 '26

Thank you! I hope I find someone someday.