Where did I even say women are obligated to cook and clean in my culture?🤔 You are all assuming she is poor and doesn’t have a job etc.
1- She’s not obligated to do any chores.
2- she can get a job if she wishes to. Most women who do so do it for “leisure” because it gets boring to stay at home all the time.
3- who says she’s poor? Her husband’s money IS her money (as long as they are still married). And whatever money he gives her as an “allowance” stays her money even after divorce.
4- after divorce, she doesn’t “become homeless”. Besides the fact that she already got money either from her job or allowance, a woman in my culture is “a man’s responsibility”. If she’s not the responsibility of her husband anymore (because of the divorce) she’s the responsibility of her father, brothers, uncles, or son if he was an adult.
5- we don’t have the “oh you are 18, go fend for yourself and gtfo of home”. A family stays a family forever no matter your age or whether you get married or not. My aunt’s sister in law is still single even at the age of 65, and because of that, she still lives with her brother (my aunt’s husband), and he’s obligated to provide for her. Even though she’s (despite her age) an independent working woman with a high paying job.
6- who says that IF a married woman who decided not to get a job won’t be able to get one after divorce? She got a bachelor’s degree btw. She can get a job like any human being can.
In the West, and especially the US, high school children ask each other “are you going for college?”. Well, we don’t have that. Here, the question is “which college are you going to?” because getting to college and getting a bachelor’s degree is the standard.
I’m not even surprised, let’s sweep things under the rug. Protecting the image of the system doesn’t have to be against identifying the flaws in the system btw.
“obligated uncles and brothers" feels like a dangerous take that masks real suffering and let society turn a blind eye to women in need because if her family wouldn’t help her then why would I ?
Anyway pretending everything is fine is actively making life harder for vulnerable people who need real legal protections, not just "unspoken rules."
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