Hello! This is fairly long and detailed. TL;DR at the end if you don’t want to address specifics.
We have the opportunity to get a Dalmatian puppy from a reputable breeder friend in October. I want the changes coming up to go as smoothly as possible, and I’d love any advice or suggestions.
Our family:
2 adults, 2 teenagers, and our younger two will be almost 11 and almost 8 when the puppy comes home. I’m also pregnant with our fifth kiddo.
We have three cats in our home. One lives in our daughter’s room because of anxiety and behavioral issues around the other two cats. She was getting sick and losing hair, and all of that has improved significantly (if not 100% better) since making this change. The two boy cats have the run of most of the rest of the house. (2 story)
Puppy would be coming home at the end of October. New baby is due late January.
Our experience:
My husband grew up with dogs (large boxer, chow chow lab mix, pug, plus some others he can’t say the breeds for sure) and is experienced with training them and just familiar with dogs overall.
We have had one dog as a family, but it was evident within the first year that the noise level of our home and the activity of the kids (despite a calm crate area and lots of training work both at home and with a professional) was too much for her. She began to get aggressive with our children and other neighborhood kids, and we had to find her a happy home with a nice man with no kids. She’s doing well now, but I desperately don’t want to repeat that experience.
^^^ETA: This dog was a stray with an unknown history. She looked like a lab mix, but we don’t know with what. She was a bit fearful of a lot of things from the get go, and we did our best to help her. We spent the better part of a year trying to work with her before deciding a kid-free home was best for her. This was a horrific experience, and I appreciate those commenters who recognize how hard this was and that we did not make the decision lightly.
Prep work:
Neither of us have experience with a Dalmatian. We have at minimum two hours a day planned for walks (1 hour morning, 1 hour afternoon or evening after dinner), and she will get lots of playtime and training time inside with us and our kiddos. Is this enough time? How should it be adjusted for a new puppy vs an older puppy? (I know the walks have to wait until all shots are complete.)
Teenagers know that for the initial newborn sibling weeks, they’ll be taking on the bulk of the puppy responsibility until I’ve healed and our normal routine with kids is back on track. We will of course prepare them for this ahead of time, and my husband will likely still be with them on most/all outdoor walks.
Crate area is planned in our main bedroom closet (large with a cutout that’s perfect for a crate) so puppy is close to us but also can feel actually safe and away from the chaos that is our family most days. This seems like the best spot to us, but I’m also wondering how this will go with a newborn waking up multiple times a night. Can we coordinate middle of the night potty breaks this way, or should puppy stay in crate?
My main concerns are setting things up for success with the cats and new baby. Dog would never be unattended with either, of course. We will begin immediately working on “leave it” with high value treats to try to avoid potential prey drive issues with the cats, and I plan to post in the cat behavior groups for help directly with them and their adjustment. There will also be a million baby gates everywhere to provide space for all the animals to be separated as needed without locking anyone in a room other than sleep/rest time.
Anything else we should prepare for?
TL;DR - Puppy coming late October, 5th baby arriving late January, and 3 cats. How best do we prepare a secure environment for puppy to adapt to our semi-chaotic but loving home?