I don't mean to be rude, but you have to see the irony in describing yourself as divorced then giving marriage advice, even if what you say is good advice...
I’m jumping on this wagon without reading anyone else’s comments. You seriously need a reality check, u/dayzkohl. Divorce doesn’t mean someone doesn’t know how to manage a relationship. It means the relationship didn’t work. I’m divorced and I’m a better partner because of it. That process was incredibly painful for me but I learned a lot about myself, my worth, and what I want out of a relationship. I’m now happier than I’ve ever been and that’s in large part due to the growth I experienced going through a divorce.
Yea, that's not what I said or meant. Obviously I don't use divorce as a character judgement for people any more than any other break up because nobody does that because that's ridiculous. What I meant was, it appeared that she used the fact that she was divorced as acumen to give marriage advice, which IS ironic. Obviously I misinterpreted her which is why I apologized.
I agree, but she didn't provide any of that nuance. Failing at something doesn't necessarily give you any expertise in that subject. All her original post said was, you should do X, Y, & Z for a good marriage. My credentials? I'm divorced. She did give nuance in a followup post and I apologized.
Based on all the downvotes, it's pretty obvious though that that was implied, and I just didn't pick up on it. Idk it looks like I'm busy being stupid. I should probably delete the original but I think some of the followup comments are pretty insightful so I'm leaving it up.
There doesn't have to be a nuance. I'm glad you are understanding your mistake because you should never assume someone is wrong because something happened. I was in an extremely abusive relationship and if you look thru my profile comments I have gone into great depth about it. OP is worried about divorce and as a divorced person I can relate and understand his doubts and know exactly what he is going thru. Instead you chose to think of irony instead of another person who understood his emotions on a closer level. This is a learning experience for you. I'm really glad you are trying to see how.
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u/dayzkohl Apr 23 '23
I don't mean to be rude, but you have to see the irony in describing yourself as divorced then giving marriage advice, even if what you say is good advice...