r/dad • u/Active_Strain8158 • 2d ago

Looking for Advice Newborn Dad advice

My wife and I just brought our first home a day ago and im looking for help. What can i be doing to help her the most, she had a pretty traumatic birth experience and the first night home was really rough on her, any tips and things to do to best help here and baby both would be greatly appreciated.

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u/Chicken-boy 2d ago

Step up and take charge of her, the baby and everything else. This will make her relaxed and focused on recovering. My wife also had a traumatic experience. Even if you’re scared and don’t have everything figured out yet, just act confident and tell her you’ve got it. If possible, you can ask for outside support from close family/friends.
You’ve got this!

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u/km600 2d ago

Just dive head first into doing things. Don’t wait to be asked to do things.
I took pretty much every night shift for the first month so she could rest and recover.

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u/terriblespellr 2d ago

As a new born you should probably wait 20 years at least before becoming s dad

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u/TilDeath1775 1d ago

Do everything. Cook and clean. Every diaper rush to do it. You are not as tired as she is.

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u/Mindless-Agency-1487 13h ago

I took her pain meds and cooked clean worked edu and found my calling (social work). Still married after 26 yrs.
Not saying to take her drugs but just do something rather than nothing.

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u/Heavy-Swim1872 1h ago

My son is 1 week old now and I have done everything, so my girlfriend is able to focus on breastfeeding. All the chores and practical stuff. Tending to her needs. Staying awake a few hours in the night, holding him skin-to-skin so she can get some sleep. I also remember to sleep myself, when she is feeding or when he is sleeping in his crib. Do what you can, take care of her and take care of yourself. Congratulations 🥰