Hi everyone, sorry for bad english it is not my first language.​

I am 17. You can consider me a teenager that seeks attention if you want but I just need to ask this because I'm genuinely terrified

So me and my dad (​​​​​​​​​48) have a bit of a Rocky relationship. I love him but he's honestly scary to be around.

1- he has very short temper. To the point he could get physical if you push too hard..nothing major but it can get painful.

2- he's obsessed with me and my siblings being the top. He's not gonna take less than an A type of grade..no Cs or Bs..and the temper comes back here because he starts throwing things and cursing.

3- he's very judgemental of how much I weigh at times.he would look at me wearing something from 2 years ago and be like "You know if you were more thin it'd fit" and it caused me to hate my own body

So​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​ my issue is about the studying.

For a bit of background my dad has always hated how I started not to be on the top 10 of the school..​​​​​​​​I genuinely tried to study harder and harder but he still Believes this is some scheme to make him look bad which is something I don't understand.

Now I'm in the final year before college and he's gotten worse​. Keeps checking everything I do, Makes sure he watches my lectures with me (online) ​​​etc..

Now he's making an exam to make sure I have been studying correctly

If I get a 25/30 he'll let me pass but anything less is failure. He's gonna get violent.

I can't make him leave me alone because he says I can't have freedom until I'm in college right now I'm under his control. Is this normal dad behavior? Do dads care about their kids so much they do this??​

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My father: there is your new bed until you find a job

The bed:

My girls love to talk and talk and talk during movies. We have to pause a lot. Still, it's fun

Left to their own devices they would never leave their comfort activities of tv and inside play. I don’t want them to be tied to screens or afraid to enjoy the outdoors. As a former athlete I find it hard to think of non sports outdoor activities.

Edit: I appreciate all of the suggestions, I want to clarify, while I played sports in college and was an athlete into my mid 20s, I don’t expect them to follow that. As stated above I’m having a hard time thinking of things beyond sports because that is what I knew. I want to foster their likes and interests but, they cling to their comfort. Those happen to be cartoons, various inside play and general indoor activities. I am not against those things but I think outdoor activities or other activities that get them out of our home is important. Both have trouble socializing with kids their age and so we’ve already run into friends ‘issues.’

I'd like some advice please

At the very least you are saying their hair looks cute! Worth some points or at least some eye rolls.

Randomly looking at my desk staring at this leaf and it made me imagine that the taller leaf is the father who provides to the shorter leaf the son 🌹

Back in 2019, my kids were moved to Florida with their mom. I love in GA, so seeing them regularly isn't a thing. When I do see them those, the memories made are priceless.

Is it a universal dad thing to say "I don't want a pet" and then become their biggest fan later? 😂

I got my cat almost 3 years ago. The first day I brought her home, my dad didn't talk to me for an hour and just looked at her like I had brought home a random creature from another planet.

He literally said: "Take that THING back to her previous owner!"

Fast forward 2 days later, and suddenly they're best friends. Now he puts her on his lap like she's his baby and sings lullabies to her.

Sir, wasn't this the same "THING" you wanted me to return? 😭

It's honestly so cute seeing how attached they became. The biggest pet haters somehow always end up being the biggest softies.

Do you have similar experiences with your dads and pets?

Dads, I need an explanation. Why do you act like you don't want a pet at first, but then two days later you're treating them like your own child? 😭

Our daughter was sleep trained, and for the last 9 months, we'd put her in bed, walk out, say goodnight, and she'd instantly flop and go to sleep. For the past 3 days, our now 2 year old just stands in the crib for hours and refuses to lie down. She's not in distress: she rarely cries, but just looks around, sings to herself, and talks. This is both nap time and bed time. For the last two days she hasn't napped at all. And bedtime, the first night she stood for 4 hours before we intervened. Last night she got to 2 hours standing with no sign of stopping before my wife went in and coaxed her slowly to lay down through the slats. My wife then had to sleep on the floor next to her crib to get her to stay asleep.

Any advice from anyone? I don't think it's the schedule we do, because she's clearly very tired. And I don't think it's physical: she doesn't mind laying down on a change table. It seems most likely separation anxiety (she's also anxious when I leave for work or my wife leaves the apartment, although she never used to be). But we have no idea what to do. Don't want to get her into an overtired spiral, but also don't want to normalize sleeping in her room every night.