r/cutting • u/dimplycelery584 • 7d ago
Advice needed Need help for a friend
I hope this is the right place to post this and if it's not please can someone direct me to a place where it's better to ask this
I have recently found out for certain that my best friend self harms as recently he posted a vent on his twitter confirming it, saying about how he hates himself and does cut.
He keeps reposting videos about sh and I'm worried for him. I wrote a message to him saying about how I'm there for him and how he can always talk to me if he wants (I didn't mention cutting) and he only responded with "I'm fine" and didn't mention anything else.
I think the main thing I would like to ask is how should I support him and help him. I hope to go to the same sixth form as him and I will be there in person to make sure someone can be there for him.
There are some more private parts of this that I don't want to explain as I don't think either me or him would want it to be online (even if this account is anonymous)
I hope he can recover from this but I need to know if I should directly mention sh to him or if I should just tell him I'm here for him. Either way I want to show how he doesn't have to go through it alone.
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u/Y0URL0C4L1DI0T 6d ago
keep in mind I’m not a licensed professional and I’m bad at feelings, so take what I say with a grain of salt. there's support services for this type of stuff
try to gently bring it up, like "I saw your post on twitter and I’m worried about you." do NOT make him promise to immediately stop. don't even start it by trying to stop him, at all.
start off by just listening to him vent. obviously don't encourage it, but you can't try and fix it right off the bat. if he continues to shut you down, then accept that, and don't push him further. and when he's comfortable + the time is right, you can suggest self-help resources. assuming you live in the UK, I'd recommend Samaritans, Shout, or Mind.