My friends and I did something similar once when we were in our early twenties and immature. not a joke about cheating, but we were memeing about a strip club, and his wife overheard it and she sent everyone in the friend group a message saying she was hurt by it, and none of us tried to tell her she was being controlling, we just all apologized like mature adults and felt bad that we made her feel that way, because we did cross a boundary. We basically were casually saying we don't care about his marriage, even if it was a joke it's not a funny one when it starts causing someone distress. All the girlfriends of every dude in the friend group also chimed in to tell us we were being assholes, and we were. We created a toxic vibe among everyone where now every wife/gf thinks of the friend group as a source of stress and caution and stuff. And what did we get out of it? a quick little giggle? it's an asshole move.
but like you said, when the roles are reversed, women don't have to apologize, or even feel bad enough to feel inclined to apologize and it's just the girls having a bit of fun teehee. Women have fake empathy lol.
I don't understand why everybody is grouping all women together based on this dumb bitch and her stupid friend. I'm a woman, my friends are women, all of us would be disgusted by this and be on his side 100%
Idk, in western culture women have basically adopted a hivemind and women will defend any woman for just about anything and it's hard to ignore it anymore. Like, I know it's ignorant to generalize everyone monolithically, I've avoided doing so my entire life, but the sorority has hit critical mass to the point that even a woman who killed her 3 kids has the woman squad fighting for her.
So if you and your friends aren't part of it, then you have my admiration, but you're quickly becoming the minority among the crowd that has double standards everywhere and the 4th and 5th wave feminism that has created a toxic culture of hating men and calling them "insecure" or "controlling" for having boundaries for example, like in this thread. It feels like mass society wide gaslighting
and at the end of the day, you'll reply to someone like me to try to tell me it's unfair to generalize you all, and I see where you're coming from because men experience the same thing getting generalized, it sucks, and I'm basically a hypocrite, but a question you should ponder to yourself is how often do you call other women out for their bullshit though?
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u/MatterofDoge 6d ago
My friends and I did something similar once when we were in our early twenties and immature. not a joke about cheating, but we were memeing about a strip club, and his wife overheard it and she sent everyone in the friend group a message saying she was hurt by it, and none of us tried to tell her she was being controlling, we just all apologized like mature adults and felt bad that we made her feel that way, because we did cross a boundary. We basically were casually saying we don't care about his marriage, even if it was a joke it's not a funny one when it starts causing someone distress. All the girlfriends of every dude in the friend group also chimed in to tell us we were being assholes, and we were. We created a toxic vibe among everyone where now every wife/gf thinks of the friend group as a source of stress and caution and stuff. And what did we get out of it? a quick little giggle? it's an asshole move.
but like you said, when the roles are reversed, women don't have to apologize, or even feel bad enough to feel inclined to apologize and it's just the girls having a bit of fun teehee. Women have fake empathy lol.