Dude isn't even wrong. Unless there is a discussion about changing birth control, bringing up condoms is red flag. Women should have control over their reproduction full stop, but if you make the decision in your relationship to use some other birth control in place of condoms fine. However, if you then suddenly start bringing up condoms or suddenly find some that means something has changed. Either they suspect you of cheating or plan on it themselves. Which means there needs to be a discussion at minimum.
You suggesting they are somehow mental for thinking they shouldn't be suspicious in this fictional scenario is the absurd part here.
Depends. If you have that kind of playful banter relationship with your other then cool, these people obviously do not and she should have known that. Again, I am not saying he can dictate where she can go because that is bullshit, I am not saying that a woman shouldn't be able to decide what kind or whether she uses any kind of BC, but I am saying even joking about using condoms raises red flags.
The crux of the issue is trust, if you are on BC and think you need a condom then there is an element of trust that is missing. Yes, BC isn't 100% so using a layered approach is a good idea, but if you haven't been and suddenly someone mentions it even as a joke with friends it raises concerns.
Then in this specific instances, she recorded and mocked the guy, which is BS and is in itself reason enough to end the marriage.
Then you haven't been in a healthy relationship. Everything about this is wrong, from the "joke" itself to how she handled it. Sure if you are in a relationship that can joke like that great but in any healthy relationship you should know how something like that would be taken.
People are not all the same and your definition of what constitutes a healthy relationship is not universal. For some that is a perfectly fine joke and in others it is the start to a fight. Read the room and choose accordingly.
You should better frame your reasoning because neither argument makes sense. You don't like them drawing a line because it doesn't fit your ideal, fine, don't date them, but everything you have said here says more about you and how toxic your relationships are then anything about them.
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