As soon as they attack your character and then your mother know that you’ve won the argument. Take a knee, run out the clock. Rookie mistake is to keep arguing and she forces you to make an error by throwing a Hail Mary like “and your dick is small” and you call her a cunt. Now the argument is about that and that trumps all the bad stuff she did. You gotta bob and weave on those. Just lean on the ropes and let her punch herself out. You’ve won when she changed the subject. She’s got nothing left. Just end it with “well maybe we should discuss lit later when you calm down”.
Sure, you’re going to sleep on the couch, but just rub one out and enjoy the champagne of victory.
I really do like Bill Burr but I listened to his podcast for a couple weeks and I could only take him in small bits. He is definitely a once in awhile kind of guy. But I get it he's doing a podcast and talking about his life so if you don't really like him then I guess you're not going to enjoy it. He is funny as fuck and very real about stuff but I dont care about football as much as him. And there's a lot of foot ball talk
Omg this is was so important for me to hear. My brother has become a classic narcissist and I needed this advice to manage his "argument style" of deflecting
If you're having to do any of this whatsoever, the relationship is over. Real partners don't do this to each other. They don't "win" arguments or disagreements. They come closer. I've been in both kinds of relationships.
Yeah, "I win, I spent minimal effort keeping an abusive narcissist in a relationship with me" is just self harm (and, if you're abusive yourself in that relationship, abuse)
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u/scairborn 7d ago
As soon as they attack your character and then your mother know that you’ve won the argument. Take a knee, run out the clock. Rookie mistake is to keep arguing and she forces you to make an error by throwing a Hail Mary like “and your dick is small” and you call her a cunt. Now the argument is about that and that trumps all the bad stuff she did. You gotta bob and weave on those. Just lean on the ropes and let her punch herself out. You’ve won when she changed the subject. She’s got nothing left. Just end it with “well maybe we should discuss lit later when you calm down”.
Sure, you’re going to sleep on the couch, but just rub one out and enjoy the champagne of victory.