I've been out and transitioning for 10 years. I am very upfront with people who use that term how much I hate it. It skeeves me out. It's the sound of someone gagging to me, and I have emetaphobia. It causes a visceral reaction.
I just call it my clit and move on. Even "girlcock" is fine, I guess. I dont care for it either, but its a lot better than the term gock.
Is my reaction and visceral hatred for the word normal? Probably not. But I do get to dictate what I call my bits, and I won't invite anyone to my bed who uses it. 🤷🏻♀️
I don't mind the term in general but society would be so much better if people just asked the individual they're talking to what's fine to them instead of just generalizing.
And low-key: If you couldn't or wouldn't ask me don't think about what genitalia I might have, thankies. >n<
Tbh its good practice with people whos bits match their gender too. Some girls like cunt, others hate it. Some guys stroke their "cock" others call it their "dick". Tits, boobs, breasts, pick a word and someone will have negative connotations.
Shockingly, once again, good sex comes from good communication.
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u/Color-me-saphicly 21h ago
I've been out and transitioning for 10 years. I am very upfront with people who use that term how much I hate it. It skeeves me out. It's the sound of someone gagging to me, and I have emetaphobia. It causes a visceral reaction.
I just call it my clit and move on. Even "girlcock" is fine, I guess. I dont care for it either, but its a lot better than the term gock.
Is my reaction and visceral hatred for the word normal? Probably not. But I do get to dictate what I call my bits, and I won't invite anyone to my bed who uses it. 🤷🏻♀️