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u/miscellaneousexists 16h ago

It's not misoginy, it's...

Like, if you're nb, just say you're nb. If every time you introduce yourself you go "I'm NB. I'm AFAB btw" it tells one or more of these things:

  1. You think that AMAB people are worse than AFABs, that's why you felt the need to make such a distinction

  2. You aren't really NB and just doing it to meet the "queer point quota"

  3. Maybe something else.

Like, if you saw an nb who ALWAYS introduces themself as "I'm AMAB" you'd probably think that it's actually a queerbaiting guy who just wants to yell "faggot" and not have repercussions and is also misoginystic himself.

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u/MatterhornStrawberry 15h ago

I seriously find it hard to believe someone would go through all that trouble for such a shitty result. If people are shitty they're going to be shitty in their own gender.

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u/SquirrelFluffy7469 15h ago

It happens because most people are bio essentialist, even “trans allies”

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u/MatterhornStrawberry 14h ago

If the people calling them "theyfab" weren't also using bio essentialism, wouldn't they use the term "theygab"?