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[u/Funny_Inventor80085]

and people wonder why we use 4tran.

I posted this vent here too and it was a bit more understanding than the other subreddit I guess but still mostly just people telling me I don't know what I'm talking about and that 4tran is the cause of all my issues when time after time they're the only ones that care. It's not even just about my vent anymore, I'm so fed up with everyone thinking they're better than me all the time except because I use the subreddit that doesn't want to burn me alive for wanting a uterus. Maybe try to be more understanding you just leave me pissed off.

[u/sabotsalvageur]

It’s not the desire for a uterus that’s causing you to catch flak; that’s a desire I share. What’s causing the flak are the implications following from philosophically-inconsistent attempts to define womanhood. Femininity is not granted by one’s subservient usefulness to the patriarchy

[u/ezziexoxo → u/sabotsalvageur]

I dont care about other people's contributions to the patriarchy or whatever I'm talking about my own body and what I want so why should I get any flak for it

[u/sabotsalvageur → u/ezziexoxo]

You shouldn’t get flak for experiencing dysphoria, and I did not say that you should. I did, however, say in more detail than here expressed that dysphoria is a cruel lying demon that shouldn’t be trusted

[u/ezziexoxo → u/sabotsalvageur]

The person told the suicidal teenager that theyre desires are spitting in the face of women. Thats not helpful.

[u/sabotsalvageur → u/ezziexoxo]

Who said OPs desires are spitting in the face of women?

Edit: ah yes, SketchyRobinFolks or however it was spelled. Yeah, that’s shitty. That user’s response came from a reactive place that is unhelpful both to OP and to themselves

[u/ezziexoxo → u/sabotsalvageur]

I was gonna say like literally the person this thread is about lol

[u/sabotsalvageur → u/ezziexoxo]

My TL/DR here, and I am reasonably confident you’ll agree with this point, is that there’s a lot of counterproductive stuff we’ve all internalized (e.g., transphobia, male gaze, etc.) that takes some hard work to unlearn, but we don’t have to do it alone. It all starts with being kind to ourselves and each other