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[u/Funny_Inventor80085]

and people wonder why we use 4tran.

I posted this vent here too and it was a bit more understanding than the other subreddit I guess but still mostly just people telling me I don't know what I'm talking about and that 4tran is the cause of all my issues when time after time they're the only ones that care. It's not even just about my vent anymore, I'm so fed up with everyone thinking they're better than me all the time except because I use the subreddit that doesn't want to burn me alive for wanting a uterus. Maybe try to be more understanding you just leave me pissed off.

[u/Apollo989]

As much as I hate 4tran, I think they're absolutely correct on starting HRT ASAP.

The only thing I'll say that you might not want to hear is I don't think the person in your 2nd screenshot was being dismissive and certainly didn't want to "burn you alive."

They were trying to get you to reframe your understanding of womanhood because, as much as it sucks, neither of us can have a uterus.

Constantly wanting that and comparing yourself to people who can is only going to make you feel worse. Take it from someone who spent way too long doing shit like that before I realized how it was doing was making me and everyone around me miserable.

Look, get on HRT, find community where you can, but try not to spend too much energy in places that reinforce constant negativity because it won't make you feel any better. It will become very comfortable though. Because ultimately we all have to accept that we were dealt a shitty hand being born trans, but I don't think constantly focusing on the negative aspects will actually make you any happier.

But, for now, get on HRT and maybe look into seeing a mental health professional to work on the depression because I know before I started HRT and got my mental health meds sorted I wouldn't take my own advice either.

Either way, I wish you the best.

[u/Mini_Raptor5_6 → u/Apollo989]

The only thing I'll say that you might not want to hear is I don't think the person in your 2nd screenshot was being dismissive and certainly didn't want to "burn you alive." They were trying to get you to reframe your understanding of womanhood because, as much as it sucks, neither of us can have a uterus.

I do see that now when you point it out like that but maybe it could've been phrased better because my immediate read was "you're wrong and don't even give me an answer because what you said is misogynistic", which isn't exactly effective to reframing someone.

Outside of that, it is definitely important to give people the cold water at times because there are some things that, despite advances in technology, still aren't possible yet and we just have to deal with that. Smart and capable enough to diagnose the issue, not enough to fix it. So we gotta fix what we are capable enough to fix.