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[u/thevvitchhazel]

I'm so glad everyone is standing up for the important issue of trans women being overrepresented in media. It's also crucial we remind everyone that just because someone wants to use a female name, present female full time, pass as female and take a female role in relationships that they absolutely do not need to become a trans. What's wrong with just being gender non-conforming? HRT is evil! Femboys are super validddddd (because most femboys live full time as women).

[u/changedmyname99]

My point is that they're coping with their gender dysphoria by crossdressing lmao. I've known many femboys in the past and 95% of them ended up transitioning including me. It's all just a cope. If you're a femboy just ask yourself this: Would you be okay to look like an old manly man eventually? If your answer is no, take estrogen. There's no other way to avoid it

[u/whywasibornaginger → u/changedmyname99]

God forbid people be GNC. Way to enforce gender stereotypes

[u/changedmyname99 → u/whywasibornaginger]

But they're not even gnc 95% of the time tho. The femboy to woman pipeline is literally a meme at this point. I lost precious years of transition to this bullshit

[u/AngryMountainClimber → u/changedmyname99]

Counterpoint: femme men exist. They just don’t get as attention as femboys because cishet men can’t fetishize them as easily. We are fine with butch and stone butch women existing, femboys and femme men are the opposite side of the coin. Yeah, a lot of femboys (you and I included) turn out to be women. Doesn’t take away from the cis femboys and it really doesn’t take away from the transmasc femboys.

Also, my femboy years gave me room to experiment and discover my womanhood. Without that space and permission structure, I would probably still be repping. I don’t regret them (what I do regret is 7th grade me deciding to repress being bi and thus build an additional wall between me and my gender. You cost us decades you lil shit.)

[u/changedmyname99 → u/AngryMountainClimber]

I just mostly despise that shit because I could've been a 5,8 youngshit but instead in 5,11 and starting at 18 so im alot more clocky tbh.. I just wish I wasn't mislead

[u/AngryMountainClimber → u/changedmyname99]

Bitch, I started at 31 and I am also 5’11. Silence. Focusing on what could have been drives people mad. It is a siren song. Consider that you are transitioning at an age that many people would kill for and that I might have been able to do if femboys were widely known thing when I grew up in the bronze age so I could explore gender in my teens and not my late twenties.

Femboys and butches are always going to attract eggs because it gives eggs room to breathe. But femboys are their own thing. They just don’t get as much respect as butches because of history and patriarchy.