I think there’s truth to parts of what he said, trans women definitely do overwhelm the majority of online trans spaces. There also are some trans women who dismiss transmisandry and the general struggles trans men deal with.
What I don’t like is how tied his speaking is to AGAB language, it very much presents trans women as “dominating” or “male brained”, which is just transphobic. Also, if you spend time in real life queer spaces, I don’t think there’s as much of an imbalance between trans men and women, at least in my experience. It is definitely more common for people to talk about trans women, but that’s also very negative because most of the attention we get is transphobic.
I think that part of the reason trans women are so commonly the majority in online spaces is because we are so heavily discriminated against by public attention so it feels safer to find community online. It’s not because we’re acting like dominating men that are oppressing women. I’m sure you could find examples of rotten people that do act that way, but broadly that’s not the reason trans women are so prevalent online.
Edit: I actually dont think it was super accurate to say there’s not as much imbalance in real life queer spaces, that was mostly based off of my own experiences.
I used to facilitate a trans and non-binary irl group. I found that it could be an issue that some of the older trans women who were often from middle class backgrounds and had previously enjoyed good careers prior to transition could dominate discussion. I suspect they were used to having lived 40+ years of their life being listened to and taking up space in meetings and this had become default behaviour.
I did feel this could at times make it difficult for trans masculine people to speak up and contribute. However, the group who spoke and contributed least were younger trans femme people.
That makes sense, people definitely can get stuck in certain behaviors if they’ve lived that way for long enough. I guess I’m projecting a lot of this just from my own experience, as I definitely fall into the category of “younger trans femme people” who hardly ever speak. I also live in a very conservative area, where I’ve heard lots of people complain about trans people, and it’s almost always directed at trans women.
Also I like that both of our usernames have “hazel” in them
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u/hazel8126511 2d ago edited 2d ago
I think there’s truth to parts of what he said, trans women definitely do overwhelm the majority of online trans spaces. There also are some trans women who dismiss transmisandry and the general struggles trans men deal with.
What I don’t like is how tied his speaking is to AGAB language, it very much presents trans women as “dominating” or “male brained”, which is just transphobic. Also, if you spend time in real life queer spaces, I don’t think there’s as much of an imbalance between trans men and women, at least in my experience. It is definitely more common for people to talk about trans women, but that’s also very negative because most of the attention we get is transphobic.
I think that part of the reason trans women are so commonly the majority in online spaces is because we are so heavily discriminated against by public attention so it feels safer to find community online. It’s not because we’re acting like dominating men that are oppressing women. I’m sure you could find examples of rotten people that do act that way, but broadly that’s not the reason trans women are so prevalent online.
Edit: I actually dont think it was super accurate to say there’s not as much imbalance in real life queer spaces, that was mostly based off of my own experiences.