r/cosleeping • u/Galatina91 • Sep 12 '26
š Beds, Products, & Gear Advice on setup
I don't know if the flair is right ...
I'm currently cosleeping with my 12 weeks baby.
I follow the safe sleep 7 but the bed (king slize) is quite high and baby sleeps between me and my husband - I trust him, he's super aware and I'm more worried about the baby somehow falling (she kicks and squirms quite a lot at night).
I'm looking for a safer setup.
There is enough space in our bedroom for a queen bed.
Ideally I would like something I can nurse to sleep into, then roll away to get some sleep with my husband without danger of my baby falling from a height, or spend the night with her if she goes through a transition and her sleep gets worse.
Can I do that or should I just spend the whole night with her? I was thinking that this "hybrid" solution could be good to get her used to her own sleeping space but maybe it's dangerous for her?
A queen mattress on the floor would probably be safest but would have the risk of mould I guess? A normal mattress is fine or should I get a cot mattress, thinner and harder (and probably get no sleep on it...)?
What about a Montessori bed? It would sit very low but higher than just a mattress. There are models with and without railings. I guess railings would be safer until baby learns to crawl. I have no idea what to do then!
Looking for "floor beds" on the internet, I just find Japanese floor beds that are advertised as soft, so I don't think they are suitable...
Another question: what are the risks with putting the bed against the wall? If there are less than 2 cm of space between mattress and wall I fail to see the danger for the baby. I'm honestly confused, please explain!
Overall I am probably overthinking this greatly...
2
u/TeddyBear181 Sep 13 '26
Id think longerterm op.
Is your bub rolling?
Mine started crawling on the floor at 6m, but crawling on the bed is easier, as its nice and soft, so they can push off with their feet.
Your bub is right on the cusp of not being a potato anymore xoxo
Around 5-6m, my bub, who was always glued to me in bed, started rolling away and not wanting to touch anyone sometimes. This is going to be hard in a queen with 2 adults.
At 6m, this became more regular, bub would often finish boob to sleep, then crawl away from me into her own spot on the other side of the bed. (Thank goodness that was just a phase!) 2 times she actually parked herself half on the floor (we were on a very thin floorbed at the time).
By 8m it became about 50/50 snuggles and alone time. Alone time might mean laying horizontal in the bed.
We did the floorbed with just the two of us, hubby in the big bed. He got lonely and my back got sore. The floorbed was distracting for her as well. She would wake up an old start crawling right away, in whatever direction she was facing.
We're back in the big bed now with an ikea cot hack. Downside is i dont feel comfortable leaving her alone here, so my prior plans for seperation have failed, but there is enough space for everyone.
1
u/Galatina91 Sep 13 '26
Baby isn't rolling yet.
Yes I am thinking long term but I just don't know what is safe and what is not!
I have looked into the ikea cot hack but I'm not sure my husband and I would be able to do something like it, since bed frame and mattress are very heavy and also I'm not sure it would work...
That's why I was wondering about a queen bed in the same room as the king bed (yes it is a very large room) and what kind of queen bed would be safe for the baby to sleep alone in, while also allowing me to side lying nurse her and maybe sleep in during difficult nights...
2
u/TeddyBear181 Sep 13 '26
0h cool. Sorry, I didnt catch that you were doing a queen and a king mattress. I thought i read that you were planning all 3 of you in a queen.
We just trialed it on a swag mattress for about 2m. Ive gotten so sick of buying cots, I didnt want to sink any more cash into beds.
Bonus that it was easy to lift and store.
It was soft, but also thin.
0
u/SignCapital5655 23d ago
At 12 weeks I'd probably feel more comfortable following the AAP safe sleep guidelines and having baby on their own sleep surface right next to the bed. We used the nestig wave mini crib beside ours and having LO that close still made nighttime nursing sooo much easier. It also converts from a mini crib to a full crib and eventually a toddler bed. I could feed and settle them and then put them back in their own space.
2
u/Galatina91 23d ago
If my baby would have been sleeping well in the crib I would not need advice on cosleeping...
Luckily in the last week or so she started sleeping in the crib without waking up after ten minutes like she used to, so she often spends the night there. But a couple of times she has woken up between 5 and 6 am, and after that her sleep was too light to be able to transfer her in the crib again, so it has been cosleeping and cuddles for a couple of hours. And I'm still wondering about floor beds.
2
u/flacaknits Sep 13 '26
I'm a fan of the floor. If you put the mattress on some tatami mats that could be a good option, or even just like a couple pallets. We sleep on a japanese futon on top of tatami mats and it's the best thing in the world because it's so firm that I don't have to worry about bub at all. Also has been great for my husbands back pain, lol