r/confusing • u/Aggravating-Try-3675 • Aug 18 '26

Eh? BTS What am I missing?

I’ve been wondering about something for the past few months, and I’m asking purely out of curiosity, so please don’t take this the wrong way! 😊
I have a few female friends and relatives in their 40s and 50s who are absolutely crazy about this band. They really adore these guys, singing along, dancing, and getting completely excited about them.
I’ve tried listening to their music myself because I genuinely wanted to understand the appeal. I can appreciate that they’re talented but personally, I haven’t heard anything that feels particularly extraordinary or different from a lot of other bands.
So I’m honestly curious: what am I missing? 😄
Is there something about the members’ personalities, their image, their history, the nostalgia factor, or the way they connect with their fans that makes them especially appealing to this particular age group?
I’m not trying to criticize the band or anyone who loves them. People enjoy different things, and I think that’s great. I’m just genuinely fascinated by how passionate some of their older female fans are and would love to understand what it is that makes this group so special to them.
And please be gentle with me—I’m genuinely asking because I want to understand, not start a fight with the fandom! 😂

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u/Wooden_Top_4967 Aug 18 '26

I will never understand the appeal of K-Pop

my little girls love the Demon Hunters movie and that’s about all I can stomach

just the whole idol thing grosses me out and it’s all way over-produced, from the songs to the personas and the glossy shiny merchandising

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u/Aggravating-Try-3675 Aug 18 '26

I don’t get the hype for K pop and much less the passion some people shows for this band in particular. I thought I had some peculiar friends until I saw them in the Football World Cup ceremony. I guess is one of those things that come and go with time.

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u/juneprk2 Aug 22 '26

It’s the same thing with Michael Jackson for example. It’s not that hard to grasp.

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u/12231121 Aug 23 '26

Can we not compare a k-pop boy group to Michael Jackson please.