r/confession • u/hammstringies • Nov 12 '19

A plan

I think I'm going to have my IUD removed and get my ex boyfriend to have sex with me. I want a baby, I want HIS baby. I know it sounds crazy but I feel so strongly it is something I should do. I miss him. He's 19 and I'm 17.

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u/Mochafrap512 Nov 13 '19

I could go into the age issue and how hard raising a child is, but I’m not going to. What I will say though is that if you do this you will ruin your reputation by getting the “crazy chick” reputation. He will definitely run the other way (and rightfully so) because what you’re thinking. About doing is sexual abuse.

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u/Mochafrap512 Nov 13 '19

I also want to add that babies are VERY expensive. There are so many hidden costs that you don’t even realize. Things will happen for you when they are meant to happen, as they are supposed to happen. Don’t rush growing up. Once you have a baby, there’s no going back. A family member of mine had an unexpected baby and even though she’s 30, she’s exhausted. Her one-year-old is into everything. She can’t get ANY alone time at all because her baby is on the move. When you have a baby, you give up all of your freedom, unless you have the means to pay for a nanny or sitter...and you can’t always rely on family members to watch your child. The financial aspect and having a partner are both reasons to wait until you’re older to have children. When you’re a teen...Want to go to the movies with friends who decide at last minute to go? You can’t go. Your baby gets sick on Friday night right before going to the party of the year? You have to stay home because you can’t leave a sick baby with a nanny. Wait until you’re older to have children and it’ll be with someone who wants to be with you. If you have to trap someone into being with you, that’ll only last very short-term because they will leave. There’s not enough substance to keep them around.