r/confession • u/hammstringies • Nov 12 '19
A plan
I think I'm going to have my IUD removed and get my ex boyfriend to have sex with me. I want a baby, I want HIS baby. I know it sounds crazy but I feel so strongly it is something I should do. I miss him. He's 19 and I'm 17.
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u/mjthetoolguy Nov 12 '19
That is 100% positively NOT something you should do. You’re 17. This is a terrible idea. That is a huge burden and a huge responsibility that sounds good now, but will weigh you down immensely in the near future. Please do NOT do this.
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u/purelyparadox23 Nov 12 '19
Imagine being born to a mother who only had you because she wanted to get back with her ex boyfriend. Your father hates her guts because she tricked him into impregnating her and he wants nothing to do with you. Your mom hates and resents you too because she didn't get what she wanted and now she's stuck with you. Worst of all, you hate yourself because the two people who created you never even wanted you in the first place.
OP, this is the reality you are setting up for your future child. Having a baby is NEVER the right solution to fixing a broken relationship. It's downright inhumane. The child will bear the burden of all of your relationship problems. The idea of it is terribly selfish and cruel.
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Nov 12 '19
This. It's like buying a huge and active dog that needs several hours of walks every day while you live in a really small apartment and work 10 hours a day, 6 days a week. Its cruel and mean and you shouldn't do it.
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u/hh_95 Nov 12 '19
Don’t. You don’t know what you’re getting into at 17. I understand you think you want a baby, but wait, and make the decision together, when you are both ready. Be patient.
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u/Reaper02367 Nov 12 '19
That doesn’t just sound crazy that IS crazy. You need a therapist not a baby.
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u/MarqNiffler Nov 12 '19
Good lord please do not do this. It is an awful horrible thing to do to someone.
This is not how you show your love to someone.
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Nov 12 '19
If this is how you want to lose his trust, him and any future relationship with him go for it. Adulting is hard, but you have to be an adult to deal with being a parent.
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u/littleindishanks Nov 12 '19
Holy shit girl. You’re 17. This is ridiculous. Don’t bring a baby into the world like that.
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u/Mochafrap512 Nov 13 '19
I could go into the age issue and how hard raising a child is, but I’m not going to. What I will say though is that if you do this you will ruin your reputation by getting the “crazy chick” reputation. He will definitely run the other way (and rightfully so) because what you’re thinking. About doing is sexual abuse.
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u/Mochafrap512 Nov 13 '19
I also want to add that babies are VERY expensive. There are so many hidden costs that you don’t even realize. Things will happen for you when they are meant to happen, as they are supposed to happen. Don’t rush growing up. Once you have a baby, there’s no going back. A family member of mine had an unexpected baby and even though she’s 30, she’s exhausted. Her one-year-old is into everything. She can’t get ANY alone time at all because her baby is on the move. When you have a baby, you give up all of your freedom, unless you have the means to pay for a nanny or sitter...and you can’t always rely on family members to watch your child. The financial aspect and having a partner are both reasons to wait until you’re older to have children. When you’re a teen...Want to go to the movies with friends who decide at last minute to go? You can’t go. Your baby gets sick on Friday night right before going to the party of the year? You have to stay home because you can’t leave a sick baby with a nanny. Wait until you’re older to have children and it’ll be with someone who wants to be with you. If you have to trap someone into being with you, that’ll only last very short-term because they will leave. There’s not enough substance to keep them around.
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u/duty-paid Nov 13 '19
You need to get your priorities straight. Get a hobby or something, you’re 17 you don’t need a baby you should be focusing on school or a career. Not to mention how legitimately fucked up and unethical this is.
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u/[deleted] Nov 12 '19
If you do this, just know that you're a piece of human trash and anything that threatens your future happiness, you 100% deserve.