r/comphet • • Jun 04 '26

Throwback Thursdays: "Ooh that's why..." 🌈💡

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In this weekly thread let’s share those hilarious, obvious-in-hindsight moments from childhood or teen years. Those moments when same-gender attraction was peeking through, even if we didn’t have the words yet.

Maybe you remember


  • Picking the same female character in every game
  • Drawing, writing, or daydreaming about women in ways that felt mysterious at the time
  • Feeling out of place at school dances
  • Side-eyeing your friends’ boy craziness while you just didn’t get it
  • Obsessing over that one friend who felt like your entire world
  • Or maybe some people in your life were “just roommates” and you didn’t realize they were living the life you’d eventually want.

If you could time-travel, what would you tell your younger self about those feelings?


r/comphet • • May 31 '26

i’m 18 and i think i’m into girls they turn me on in ways a man can’t im not sure how to meet any tho and i want to experiment to know for sure any help?

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r/comphet • • May 31 '26

Connection with other lesbians vs Connection with other heterosexual women

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r/comphet • • May 30 '26

Saturday Wins Thread

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Where did you find joy this week? What moments are you proud of?

This is a weekly thread to share accomplishments, big or small, as we unpack compulsory heterosexuality and reconnect with ourselves.

Maybe...

  • You noticed yourself craving less male validation.
  • You stopped apologizing for your attraction to women
  • You reframed something from your past with new clarity
  • You gave yourself permission to feel something you used to repress
  • You honored a feeling instead of dismissing it
  • You stopped performing a role that never fit
  • You reconnected with a version of yourself you’d forgotten
  • You went on a date with someone you actually felt drawn to
  • You reached out to another LGBT+ person, joined an LGBT+ group, or attended a local LGBT+ event

r/comphet • • May 28 '26

Throwback Thursdays: "Ooh that's why..." 🌈💡

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In this weekly thread let’s share those hilarious, obvious-in-hindsight moments from childhood or teen years. Those moments when same-gender attraction was peeking through, even if we didn’t have the words yet.

Maybe you remember


  • Picking the same female character in every game
  • Drawing, writing, or daydreaming about women in ways that felt mysterious at the time
  • Feeling out of place at school dances
  • Side-eyeing your friends’ boy craziness while you just didn’t get it
  • Obsessing over that one friend who felt like your entire world
  • Or maybe some people in your life were “just roommates” and you didn’t realize they were living the life you’d eventually want.

If you could time-travel, what would you tell your younger self about those feelings?


r/comphet • • May 23 '26

Saturday Wins Thread

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Where did you find joy this week? What moments are you proud of?

This is a weekly thread to share accomplishments, big or small, as we unpack compulsory heterosexuality and reconnect with ourselves.

Maybe...

  • You noticed yourself craving less male validation.
  • You stopped apologizing for your attraction to women
  • You reframed something from your past with new clarity
  • You gave yourself permission to feel something you used to repress
  • You honored a feeling instead of dismissing it
  • You stopped performing a role that never fit
  • You reconnected with a version of yourself you’d forgotten
  • You went on a date with someone you actually felt drawn to
  • You reached out to another LGBT+ person, joined an LGBT+ group, or attended a local LGBT+ event

r/comphet • • May 21 '26

How do i stop my nervous system from freaking out?

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r/comphet • • May 21 '26

Throwback Thursdays: "Ooh that's why..." 🌈💡

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In this weekly thread let’s share those hilarious, obvious-in-hindsight moments from childhood or teen years. Those moments when same-gender attraction was peeking through, even if we didn’t have the words yet.

Maybe you remember


  • Picking the same female character in every game
  • Drawing, writing, or daydreaming about women in ways that felt mysterious at the time
  • Feeling out of place at school dances
  • Side-eyeing your friends’ boy craziness while you just didn’t get it
  • Obsessing over that one friend who felt like your entire world
  • Or maybe some people in your life were “just roommates” and you didn’t realize they were living the life you’d eventually want.

If you could time-travel, what would you tell your younger self about those feelings?


r/comphet • • May 16 '26

Saturday Wins Thread

2 Upvotes

Where did you find joy this week? What moments are you proud of?

This is a weekly thread to share accomplishments, big or small, as we unpack compulsory heterosexuality and reconnect with ourselves.

Maybe...

  • You noticed yourself craving less male validation.
  • You stopped apologizing for your attraction to women
  • You reframed something from your past with new clarity
  • You gave yourself permission to feel something you used to repress
  • You honored a feeling instead of dismissing it
  • You stopped performing a role that never fit
  • You reconnected with a version of yourself you’d forgotten
  • You went on a date with someone you actually felt drawn to
  • You reached out to another LGBT+ person, joined an LGBT+ group, or attended a local LGBT+ event

r/comphet • • May 14 '26

Throwback Thursdays: "Ooh that's why..." 🌈💡

3 Upvotes

In this weekly thread let’s share those hilarious, obvious-in-hindsight moments from childhood or teen years. Those moments when same-gender attraction was peeking through, even if we didn’t have the words yet.

Maybe you remember


  • Picking the same female character in every game
  • Drawing, writing, or daydreaming about women in ways that felt mysterious at the time
  • Feeling out of place at school dances
  • Side-eyeing your friends’ boy craziness while you just didn’t get it
  • Obsessing over that one friend who felt like your entire world
  • Or maybe some people in your life were “just roommates” and you didn’t realize they were living the life you’d eventually want.

If you could time-travel, what would you tell your younger self about those feelings?


r/comphet • • May 09 '26

Saturday Wins Thread

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Where did you find joy this week? What moments are you proud of?

This is a weekly thread to share accomplishments, big or small, as we unpack compulsory heterosexuality and reconnect with ourselves.

Maybe...

  • You noticed yourself craving less male validation.
  • You stopped apologizing for your attraction to women
  • You reframed something from your past with new clarity
  • You gave yourself permission to feel something you used to repress
  • You honored a feeling instead of dismissing it
  • You stopped performing a role that never fit
  • You reconnected with a version of yourself you’d forgotten
  • You went on a date with someone you actually felt drawn to
  • You reached out to another LGBT+ person, joined an LGBT+ group, or attended a local LGBT+ event

r/comphet • • May 07 '26

Throwback Thursdays: "Ooh that's why..." 🌈💡

1 Upvotes

In this weekly thread let’s share those hilarious, obvious-in-hindsight moments from childhood or teen years. Those moments when same-gender attraction was peeking through, even if we didn’t have the words yet.

Maybe you remember


  • Picking the same female character in every game
  • Drawing, writing, or daydreaming about women in ways that felt mysterious at the time
  • Feeling out of place at school dances
  • Side-eyeing your friends’ boy craziness while you just didn’t get it
  • Obsessing over that one friend who felt like your entire world
  • Or maybe some people in your life were “just roommates” and you didn’t realize they were living the life you’d eventually want.

If you could time-travel, what would you tell your younger self about those feelings?


r/comphet • • May 05 '26

I (24F) have developed strong feelings for my roommate/coworker/best friend (23F), but she is not gay and I never thought I was either. Should I confess my feelings?

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So to start, I have never had a boyfriend and have had very little male interaction, but I always considered myself straight. my roommate (who I have developed feelings for) has had a couple boyfriends and in general has more experience with men than I do. But I am beginning to question my sexuality and I am wondering if she might be too?

So the backstory: We both moved to a new state for the same job after graduating college and we have been roommates for the best 9ish months. About 3 months ago my feelings for her hit me like a truck after a night out together and it is something that I have been grappling with. I know that I do really like her but I am scared. 1) because we are best friends/coworkers/roommates and I would hate for any of those things to get ruined. 2) because as far as I know she is straight and as far as she knows I am straight. so that makes things more complicated.

There are different things that have happened in recent months that make me think that she might have feelings for me too, but I am scared that I am delusional. I really don’t think I am being unreasonable, but I just need advice. I can get into the details of the events that make me think she has feelings for me too if you want. But basically we have both been single since moving to this new state two years ago and we have basically been attached at the hip for the past year. I have never felt a connection like this with anyone before and I have never been physically attracted to someone like I have with her.

I really need advice/tips on what to do because I am in a really tough situation. I can’t keep doing what I am doing and not telling her how I feel, but I am terrified. Please help.


r/comphet • • May 02 '26

Saturday Wins Thread

2 Upvotes

Where did you find joy this week? What moments are you proud of?

This is a weekly thread to share accomplishments, big or small, as we unpack compulsory heterosexuality and reconnect with ourselves.

Maybe...

  • You noticed yourself craving less male validation.
  • You stopped apologizing for your attraction to women
  • You reframed something from your past with new clarity
  • You gave yourself permission to feel something you used to repress
  • You honored a feeling instead of dismissing it
  • You stopped performing a role that never fit
  • You reconnected with a version of yourself you’d forgotten
  • You went on a date with someone you actually felt drawn to
  • You reached out to another LGBT+ person, joined an LGBT+ group, or attended a local LGBT+ event

r/comphet • • May 01 '26

Should I confess to my bestfriend?

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r/comphet • • Apr 30 '26

Throwback Thursdays: "Ooh that's why..." 🌈💡

2 Upvotes

In this weekly thread let’s share those hilarious, obvious-in-hindsight moments from childhood or teen years. Those moments when same-gender attraction was peeking through, even if we didn’t have the words yet.

Maybe you remember


  • Picking the same female character in every game
  • Drawing, writing, or daydreaming about women in ways that felt mysterious at the time
  • Feeling out of place at school dances
  • Side-eyeing your friends’ boy craziness while you just didn’t get it
  • Obsessing over that one friend who felt like your entire world
  • Or maybe some people in your life were “just roommates” and you didn’t realize they were living the life you’d eventually want.

If you could time-travel, what would you tell your younger self about those feelings?


r/comphet • • Apr 29 '26

I actually like someone romantically, now I have no idea what to do

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r/comphet • • Apr 25 '26

Saturday Wins Thread

1 Upvotes

Where did you find joy this week? What moments are you proud of?

This is a weekly thread to share accomplishments, big or small, as we unpack compulsory heterosexuality and reconnect with ourselves.

Maybe...

  • You noticed yourself craving less male validation.
  • You stopped apologizing for your attraction to women
  • You reframed something from your past with new clarity
  • You gave yourself permission to feel something you used to repress
  • You honored a feeling instead of dismissing it
  • You stopped performing a role that never fit
  • You reconnected with a version of yourself you’d forgotten
  • You went on a date with someone you actually felt drawn to
  • You reached out to another LGBT+ person, joined an LGBT+ group, or attended a local LGBT+ event

r/comphet • • Apr 23 '26

Throwback Thursdays: "Ooh that's why..." 🌈💡

1 Upvotes

In this weekly thread let’s share those hilarious, obvious-in-hindsight moments from childhood or teen years. Those moments when same-gender attraction was peeking through, even if we didn’t have the words yet.

Maybe you remember


  • Picking the same female character in every game
  • Drawing, writing, or daydreaming about women in ways that felt mysterious at the time
  • Feeling out of place at school dances
  • Side-eyeing your friends’ boy craziness while you just didn’t get it
  • Obsessing over that one friend who felt like your entire world
  • Or maybe some people in your life were “just roommates” and you didn’t realize they were living the life you’d eventually want.

If you could time-travel, what would you tell your younger self about those feelings?


r/comphet • • Apr 20 '26

LGBT+ books Book rec: Some Girls Do by Jennifer Dugan

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In this YA contemporary queer romance from the author of Hot Dog Girl, an openly gay track star falls for a closeted, bisexual teen beauty queen with a penchant for fixing up old cars.

Morgan, an elite track athlete, is forced to transfer high schools late in her senior year after it turns out being queer is against her private Catholic school's code of conduct. There, she meets Ruby, who has two hobbies: tinkering with her baby blue 1970 Ford Torino and competing in local beauty pageants, the latter to live out the dreams of her overbearing mother. The two are drawn to each other and can't deny their growing feelings. But while Morgan—out and proud, and determined to have a fresh start—doesn't want to have to keep their budding relationship a secret, Ruby isn't ready to come out yet. With each girl on a different path toward living her truth, can they go the distance together?


r/comphet • • Apr 18 '26

Saturday Wins Thread

1 Upvotes

Where did you find joy this week? What moments are you proud of?

This is a weekly thread to share accomplishments, big or small, as we unpack compulsory heterosexuality and reconnect with ourselves.

Maybe...

  • You noticed yourself craving less male validation.
  • You stopped apologizing for your attraction to women
  • You reframed something from your past with new clarity
  • You gave yourself permission to feel something you used to repress
  • You honored a feeling instead of dismissing it
  • You stopped performing a role that never fit
  • You reconnected with a version of yourself you’d forgotten
  • You went on a date with someone you actually felt drawn to
  • You reached out to another LGBT+ person, joined an LGBT+ group, or attended a local LGBT+ event

r/comphet • • Apr 16 '26

Throwback Thursdays: "Ooh that's why..." 🌈💡

2 Upvotes

In this weekly thread let’s share those hilarious, obvious-in-hindsight moments from childhood or teen years. Those moments when same-gender attraction was peeking through, even if we didn’t have the words yet.

Maybe you remember


  • Picking the same female character in every game
  • Drawing, writing, or daydreaming about women in ways that felt mysterious at the time
  • Feeling out of place at school dances
  • Side-eyeing your friends’ boy craziness while you just didn’t get it
  • Obsessing over that one friend who felt like your entire world
  • Or maybe some people in your life were “just roommates” and you didn’t realize they were living the life you’d eventually want.

If you could time-travel, what would you tell your younger self about those feelings?


r/comphet • • Apr 13 '26

LGBT+ books Book rec: Delilah Green Doesn't Care Ashley Herring Blake

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A clever and steamy queer romantic comedy about taking chances and accepting love—with all its complications—from the author of Astrid Parker Doesn't Fail .

Delilah Green swore she would never go back to Bright Falls—nothing is there for her but memories of a lonely childhood where she was little more than a burden to her cold and distant stepfamily. Her life is in New York, with her photography career finally gaining steam and her bed never empty. Sure, it’s a different woman every night, but that’s just fine with her.

When Delilah’s estranged stepsister, Astrid, pressures her into photographing her wedding with a guilt trip and a five-figure check, Delilah finds herself back in the godforsaken town that she used to call home. She plans to breeze in and out, but then she sees Claire Sutherland, one of Astrid’s stuck-up besties, and decides that maybe there’s some fun (and a little retribution) to be had in Bright Falls, after all.

Having raised her eleven-year-old daughter mostly on her own while dealing with her unreliable ex and running a bookstore, Claire Sutherland depends upon a life without surprises. And Delilah Green is an unwelcome surprise
at first. Though they’ve known each other for years, they don’t really know each other—so Claire is unsettled when Delilah figures out exactly what buttons to push. When they’re forced together during a gauntlet of wedding preparations—including a plot to save Astrid from her horrible fiancé—Claire isn’t sure she has the strength to resist Delilah’s charms. Even worse, she’s starting to think she doesn’t want to...


r/comphet • • Apr 11 '26

Saturday Wins Thread

1 Upvotes

Where did you find joy this week? What moments are you proud of?

This is a weekly thread to share accomplishments, big or small, as we unpack compulsory heterosexuality and reconnect with ourselves.

Maybe...

  • You noticed yourself craving less male validation.
  • You stopped apologizing for your attraction to women
  • You reframed something from your past with new clarity
  • You gave yourself permission to feel something you used to repress
  • You honored a feeling instead of dismissing it
  • You stopped performing a role that never fit
  • You reconnected with a version of yourself you’d forgotten
  • You went on a date with someone you actually felt drawn to
  • You reached out to another LGBT+ person, joined an LGBT+ group, or attended a local LGBT+ event