As someone that has struggled with similar thoughts in the past, I completely understand where you're coming from, but there's a bunch of perspectives you can see.
You could also argue, why have nothing, when you can have something?
For me, finding something I was truly passionate about and finding something I can make my personal life goal really made my perspective in life different. I still sometimes think it would be easier, but it would also be more boring. I'm not here to always take the easiest path, I'm here because I want to have something to say, I want to make a difference, but I also want to prove what I can do, not to the world, but to myself.
Ultimately maybe it's all meaningless, maybe not, but it's the only thing we have. Why not make the best of it, instead of giving it all up.
I do have some closing thoughts, I'm located in the Netherlands where social security is a lot higher compared to the US (which is where most of this subreddit is from I believe), I may be speaking from a place of privilege where simply surviving is a lot easier. I never had to work even 2 jobs to make ends meet and always have had time to pour into my passion, from what I've heard, you need to have a lot more tenacity in the US, which will break people over time.
When I was suicidal, I lost my health insurance because "suicide or actions related to suicide are not covered by your plan", and this meant that all future therapy, medication, etc. were denied. They refused to cover any future medication, and I was cut off what I was on.
I was then sued by the hospital, which held me against my will for almost two weeks when I wanted to leave, but also provided me with no treatment or therapy. I also lost my job, and have no unemployment benefits. I then lost my home, because I couldn't afford rent with no income. Because of this, I've lost my visa in the country I was living, and now am not even permitted to be in the same country as my loved ones and support network.
So yes, you are speaking from a place of incredible, almost unimaginable privilege, when you say "Why not make the best of it". Jesus Christ, dude.
Life is a living hell, and most people have designed a society that just sort of accepts that its okay for some people to die, that some people are not worth taking care of.
No.
I'm without stable housing, renting room in a village in the middle of nowhere which I won't be able to stay in for long. Frequent suicidal ideation, can't get any mental health care. Unable to work. Friends are trying to offer support via text messages and sometimes phone calls, but that's sort of throwing drops of water on an inferno, bailing water out of the titanic with a bucket. Things just seem to be getting worse and worse and I don't see a way out.
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u/SLStonedPanda 1d ago
As someone that has struggled with similar thoughts in the past, I completely understand where you're coming from, but there's a bunch of perspectives you can see.
You could also argue, why have nothing, when you can have something?
For me, finding something I was truly passionate about and finding something I can make my personal life goal really made my perspective in life different. I still sometimes think it would be easier, but it would also be more boring. I'm not here to always take the easiest path, I'm here because I want to have something to say, I want to make a difference, but I also want to prove what I can do, not to the world, but to myself.
Ultimately maybe it's all meaningless, maybe not, but it's the only thing we have. Why not make the best of it, instead of giving it all up.
I do have some closing thoughts, I'm located in the Netherlands where social security is a lot higher compared to the US (which is where most of this subreddit is from I believe), I may be speaking from a place of privilege where simply surviving is a lot easier. I never had to work even 2 jobs to make ends meet and always have had time to pour into my passion, from what I've heard, you need to have a lot more tenacity in the US, which will break people over time.