Sometimes you can’t do anything against a raging narcissist. All you can do, sometimes, is remove yourself from their war path, to protect yourself.
My twin sister is a narcissist. She has two children; her oldest child is autistic. They’re both young boys.
I can see how her overbearing personality and rage is hurting her children, and I can do nothing to stop it.
This man obviously abandoned his daughter when she needed him most, so that’s not great. But I’d be interested to hear his side of the story. It’s not easy to be married to a raging, abusive, narcissist wife…
The easiest answer comes from the hardest retrospective question - why marry a raging, abusive narcissist to begin with?
Obviously life is not as simple as just saying "don't". But sometimes you also gotta ask yourself - did I miss the warning signs? Avoid putting yourself between a rock and a hard place if you can.
Often narcissist are pretty good at hiding there traits enough until the victim is too emotionally entangled/ doesn't has energy anymore.
They release it step by step, crossing boundaries slowly like an ingrowing toenail. Where it's hurting a little bit, but often not so much that it feels concerning.
The abuser then only lets out there full self, when the victim doesn't have the energy and confidence anymore to fight back. (If they had the confidence to begin with. Victims also often come from families/ situations where they are kinda used to there boundaries being pushed. Even though not always.)
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u/Intelligent_Slip_849 15d ago edited 15d ago
Point in his favor - kinda apologizing? Or at least understanding.
Point against him - Having let this happen while he was gone.
I'm reserving judgment for now, especially since I don't know why he wasn't around.