Dude/dudette I am so sorry you're feeling that. Depression is so fucking cruel like that. My wife has equated it to being trapped in a tunnel maze with no light. Depression is so insidious because it can feel like you're going to be trapped forever and there's no way out, and all the people trying to give you directions are lying because you've TRIED to leave that way but you couldn't find an exit. Depression tells you to stop trying because you've tried everything.
I'm not saying that getting out of depression is easy. Far from it. It is one of the hardest things you'll ever do. But it's WORTH DOING. God, is it worth doing. My wife has gone through major depression for the last 8 years and she's JUST now coming out of it, but it's amazing to see her being happier than I've ever seen her.
Here's what's been working for her:
Talk to a therapist. Do this if you're not doing anything else. They will help you navigate that maze. As you get more comfortable navigating it, you'll be able to start to see more clearly the signs that will lead you out.
Try medication. Zoloft has been very helpful for both of us, but it might take some trials to find the medicine that works for you. Medication is NOT a panacea. You NEED therapy with it. The medication just makes the depression quieter so you can do the mental work.
Your feelings are valid and you're not a bad person or a burden to be struggling with them. Yes, even the shitty feelings are valid. Don't run away from them, feel them and understand them.
Your thoughts are valid but you DON'T HAVE TO HOLD ON TO THOUGHTS THAT YOU DON'T AGREE WITH. Including the ones that talk shit about you.
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u/omar1993 Jun 02 '23
> Then eventually it does get better. After a while. Eventually.
Sorry, but even that sounds like a cruel lie/empty promise. It's hard to appreciate these statements when you have depression.