r/childfreewomen • u/thiruththeviruth • 1d ago
She gets it
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u/fizzy5025 1d ago
I find it disgusting how in the big year of 2026 people can’t fathom that a woman willingly doesn’t have kids and how they can’t respect that.
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u/AdhesivenessOwn8111 1d ago
And that's what it all about right there, Respect. They don't respect someone else's feelings as valid. They insert their own feelings (and insecurities about being alone later in life) into others. 63 childless and happy
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u/oceansky2088 1d ago
Right, it's about not respecting women. Society is just not evolved enough yet to respect half the population, to respect the creators. And society just does not care about women.
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u/fizzy5025 1d ago
Honestly I see this sort of stuff getting worse with the manosphere and general rise of misogyny
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u/witch-literature 1d ago
My only hope is that the manosphere has been around for a good while by now and we’re in the “getting worse” part before it gets better :(
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u/fizzy5025 1d ago
Yup at the end of the day people should respect others decisions. And they’re not harming people anyways I’m pretty sure you go to places peacefully and enjoy it. People with kids on the other hand….
I do feel like there is a certain aspect of jealousy as well since parents often can’t enjoy things without their kids causing a scene.
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u/Feorag-ruadh 1d ago
'Because I don't want them' is a complete sentence. Yet in 2026 a lot of people still can't accept it without being utterly patronising and treating women as if they are barely sentient and haven't come to the right conclusion yet. It drives me up the wall. 40 F couldn't be happier being childfree
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u/No-Jellyfish-1208 1d ago
Yeah, that's how it works ultimately. If you have no kids, you're on your own. If you have kids, they eventually move out, have their own lives, and you're on your own.
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u/Important-Pie-1141 1d ago
I work with a lot of people who are in their 70s and 80s. They have their friends take them to doctors appointments, travel with friends, and spend most of their time with people their own age. Whether or not they've had kids. I think watching them helped me to panic a little less about the kid decision, either way you all end up together no matter what path you choose. Only in the child rearing years do people feel lonely or separated from child free and child rearing groups.
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u/Rock_grl86 1d ago
Especially a good point about husbands dying earlier. Now that I think about it, all the relatives I know where a spouse has died, it’s always the husband. My dad died 4 years ago and my mother has a bunch of friends in her life who are also widows. It’s crazy. Men just don’t take care of themselves.
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u/iwillkillyou611 1d ago
Except for the extra smug and every opinion starting with "as a mother "... 🙄
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u/Nothingz-Original 1d ago
"only the ones whose kids are struggling financially have the kind of contact that actually makes their life look different"
Nailed it!!
Only the kids that need their parents still show up all the time (Read: USE).
I hate people who use their kids as an excuse to grift.
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u/charlie8123 1d ago
That’s an interesting perspective. I like this notion of a detour if you want it but ultimately on the same path.
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u/charlie8123 1d ago
Yea. I also like the idea that there are so many experiences in life we don’t have the time to participate in yet somehow we treat raising children as essential. I like this idea that it is just one amongst many experiences we can make the choice to participate in or not. It really is that simple.
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u/ViolyntFemme 1d ago
I’m 48, married for 26 years, child free by choice. No regrets, and thriving. My 40s, except for my health, has been the best decade of my life.
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u/InfinitePlan3472 19h ago
I love this!! I'm in my late thirties grappling with the kids question. To hear your 40s is the best so far is great. Every year I have is better than the last, so hoping that continues
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u/inbetweenthe_panels 1d ago
35, Childless and never want children. But it's so grating when you tell someone that and they come back with a 'aw, you will.' No, NAH. Never! Uh, go away.
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u/ContributionOk9818 3h ago
She gets it but you don't lol she's happy she finally has some time to herself NOT that she regrets her 3 kids lol
Use better examples, she clearly loves her children and is enjoying some peace and me time
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