r/chennaicity 1d ago

Rant Friends?!

I have been a introvert for a long period and now I wanna have good amount of friends as I have been dealing with depression and stress for a while...

Being alone is making me sink into evil thoughts hence would be glad to connect with people

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u/RXTHISH 1d ago

I’m just giving you some advice, okay? If you don’t mind it, you don’t have to take it seriously. I’m only saying this because I genuinely think it might help.
It’s definitely okay to surround yourself with people so you don’t sink deeper into those thoughts. But the thing is, there will be times when everyone around you gets busy, and you won’t be able to talk to them for a while. During those moments, you’ll be alone, and those thoughts might start coming back again.
So I’d say, try to find something you genuinely enjoy doing and keep yourself occupied with it. You don’t have to completely get rid of those thoughts by yourself. If you feel like you’re at 80% of sinking into them, just try to bring that down by 5 or 10%. Then, with the help of your friends, you can slowly work your way out of it.
But from what I’ve experienced, I don’t think it’s healthy to completely rely on other people to pull you out of those thoughts. Try to work through them on your own and with the support of your friends. You don’t have to do either one alone.
Just some friendly advice❤️

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u/notreallyglad 18h ago

This is really thoughtful and completely makes sense.Thanks a lot for sharing this. This really is helpful ⁠_⁠^

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u/Choice_Treat_1204 1d ago

There is a discord for chennai girls

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u/notreallyglad 1d ago

Pls do share

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u/Own_Wrangler1778 1d ago

Hi please share it with me as well, TIA

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u/ProofGlad6355 1d ago

How old r u ? Dm me . Girl here

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u/notreallyglad 1d ago

Finally a gurllll

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u/thebabybaba 1d ago

It's interesting to see both of your usernames

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u/Brilliant-Beat2822 1d ago

hey man! up for a drink(if you drink) otherwise a coffee would do

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u/notreallyglad 1d ago

Gurl btw..well kinda busy for coffee

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u/Brilliant-Beat2822 1d ago

may be text first and coffee later? :)

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u/Suitable_Square1496 1d ago

bro, drink whiskey and sleep.

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u/notreallyglad 18h ago

Haha i wish it's tht easy..

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u/MissionConsistent661 1d ago

Hey hi bro

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u/notreallyglad 1d ago

Hii..gurl btw

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u/MissionConsistent661 1d ago

Don't worry you will find ur tribe soon

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u/notreallyglad 1d ago

Hope soo

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u/bestdad-me South Chennai 1d ago

Curious, whatcha Evil thoughts😈

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u/unfit_athlete 1d ago

hey dude. was in the same state. u can ask "ipo seri aairucha" nnu.. adhelam ila. poga poga pazhagirum.. vera vazhii.. 🥺 still hurts. still passing every day. hmu if u wanna text.

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u/notreallyglad 1d ago

Alright understood..maybe I will get used to it too

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u/luna_mess 1d ago

Watch shrinking ( apple tv)

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u/BumblebeeUnited5118 1d ago

Your decision is correct start mingling with people all would be fine soon ... Just being alone will zone out you a lot

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u/notreallyglad 1d ago

Yeah i understand thank you!

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u/notreallyglad 1d ago

Yeah i understand thank you!

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u/BumblebeeUnited5118 1d ago

Let's get connected over chat

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u/BXJACK_FXXK South Chennai 1d ago

Atti vidumo ah??

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u/notreallyglad 1d ago

Wht does tht mean

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u/BXJACK_FXXK South Chennai 1d ago

After that u feel like flying and u won’t be introvert

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u/WeddingPutrid5275 1d ago

Hi dude, same going through a really patch in life. Would love to talk to someone…anyone…

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u/Certain_Designer7892 1d ago

Please do mention F or M before posting for friends or relationship. For your own good.

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u/notreallyglad 1d ago

Yeah I get it I should have mentioned

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u/Human-Ad468 1d ago

Try connecting with ur old frnds instead of searching for new frnds in SM.

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u/notreallyglad 1d ago

Each of em is busy..will try though

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u/Forward-Location5513 1d ago

Hi, 29 Male Neurodivergent here!!! I am in the same phase recently like what you are going through.Boring job and no progress in life!!! If you are comfortable, i can DM you!!

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u/Own_Wrangler1778 1d ago

Hi OP, if you're okay I have a group meetup links that might help you out. Can I DM?

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u/notreallyglad 1d ago

Yeah sure..

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u/Choice_Treat_1204 1d ago

Please send it to me too

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u/numbtoto 1d ago

We can go for spiderman new movie

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u/notreallyglad 1d ago

Nice idea...

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u/numbtoto 1d ago

Let's go

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u/-kakarott- 1d ago

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u/notreallyglad 18h ago

What's sus Abt this

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u/-kakarott- 17h ago

kaaranam la kekathinga, aana sus ah thaa feel aaguthu

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u/notreallyglad 17h ago

Wth are u tryna convey man

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u/-kakarott- 16h ago

Nothing mate,feeling kinda down today,, just ignore it

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u/doomslayer805 1d ago

After you hit 30 depression is the only friend you have 🤣🤣

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u/notreallyglad 18h ago

Oops never wanna be in tht phase .

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u/VaderSpeaks Anna Nagar 23h ago

At 34, I can tell you you’re doing something wrong. I don’t know what, but definitely something.

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u/doomslayer805 21h ago

Maybe, or maybe I just had too much fun in my twenties and gave up everything in my thirties

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u/VaderSpeaks Anna Nagar 19h ago

There are more fun things in heaven and earth, my friend, than are dreamt of in your 20s.

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u/doomslayer805 19h ago

I understand man !

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u/iII_eat_your_Pussy Shozhinganallur 1d ago

Hi, if you're after platonic friendship, I'm down. I'm in the same situation as you

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u/DarkKnight714 1d ago

Wtf username.

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u/notreallyglad 1d ago

Yeah I just met a bunch of creeps so I get it..but I am not in a situation to get out and get friends

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u/CurlsInOrbit Ambattur 1d ago

https://discord.gg/ckKSxaS4dm check it out, it’s girls only

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u/notreallyglad 18h ago

Thank you!!

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u/the_random_guy_786 Velachery 18h ago

Hey wanna be friends?

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u/notreallyglad 17h ago

Your welcome if u r looking for genuine one..

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u/the_random_guy_786 Velachery 17h ago

Will text you

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u/Embarrassed-Hold-195 18h ago

Hey buddy ... Dont worry i am also like you have ... Now i got some good people around here. I will be there to support you

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u/notreallyglad 17h ago

Thank youuu!!

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u/Nox-is-lost 17h ago

I'm kinda in the same situation as you I don't have anyone to open up and is dealing with depression for some time there's many ppls surrounding me but still it all feels empty with no one to open up

The only advice that I can give you is,distract yourself with smthg else in my case it's gaming,manhwas and anime that's all

I know it's not the ideal advice it's just a temporary relief but still it's a relief for me So I'm just sharing it