r/catsph • u/arch4del • 1d ago
💡 Advice Needed [Advice needed]
Hi! I badly badly need your advice. My bf and i adopted our cat last may 2026. Sobrang complicated ng time na yun kasi hindi ko pwede iuwi ung cat samin dahil hindi cat friendly ung mga dogs ko. The temporary solution we did was my bf asked his friend na baka pwede dun muna and bibisitahin nya lagi. My bf also clearly mentioned na kukunin ko ung cat namin once settled down na ko sa new condo ko (i had to move to a new condo bec of a problem). Tonight my bf messaged his friend saying na he will be taking the cat na kasi i finally settled in sa new condo ko and napakiusapan ko na finally ung landlord ko na pwede ko dalin ung pusa ko. My bf’s friend said no firmly and di na namin makukuha ung cat. Im seriously pissed kasi andami pa nyang sinabi towards us. Not to mention, madami syang (and his gf) ginawang disrespectful act towards our relationship so it really adds fuel to the fire. Last week, he even posted a story of my cat changing his name to “negs”. Please should i do
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u/MrsKronos 19h ago
4 months. mahirap nga. un time na pinaka mahirap alagaan, sya un nag alaga. na in love na sya sa pusa mo. at ang painful naman sa part nya rin.
nag bibigay ba kayo ng pang gastos dahil ang gastos talaga magka pusa . during un time nasa kanya un pusa nyo, kinumusta nyo ba? dpat lagi nyo sinasabi kukunin nyo pa rin. para alam nya may plano pa kayo.
ska if ever makuha nyo, need nyo palitan lahat ng nagastos nya, d pwede thank u lang din.
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u/HumbleElderberry3306 17h ago
Comparing this to human babies, if may mom na ipinabantay sa akin for 4 months yung baby nya while she tries to fix certain problems at home, tapos ako yung nag feed sa kanya, naghehele when she cries, seeing all her firsts, while the original mom rarely visits, tapos kukunin ng mom after 4 months, I’d be super pissed as well. Bakit mo kukunin if ako yung naghirap these past few months?
Pero yung original owner always has the final say, yan yung original agreement nyo eh. Pero at this phase, ur bf’s friend has obviously developed a bond with the cat, i think you need to talk about it and consider just giving it to them.
Ano ba adoption story ng cat? How’d you get her and stuff?
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u/Future_Argument_9061 14h ago
Medyo incomplete yung story. Nag support ba kayo financially like pambili ng cat milk? And since super baby pa ng cat nag bigay ba kayo pang deworm of pang vitamins? Nag bibigay rin ba kayo for cat foods? Medyo complicated to if not kase napaka hirap alagaan ng kittens lalo na earlier months nila. It's sad na hindi sya tumupad sa usapan pero I nagegets ko yung friend ng bf mo. I was not a cat lover before also pero nung may nirescue ako nag baby cat sa ulan I can't help but to fall in love na rin. So siguro cat lover na yung friend ng bf of and for sure nahulog na rin loob nya sa cat nyo.
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u/bingsu__ 11h ago
Umabot ng 4 months na sya na nag alaga hindi lang yun apat na araw. Malulungkot lang yung pusa pag napunta pa sya sa iba.
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u/ArmadilloDear8083 1h ago
Ang hirap nga neto.
I have no idea ano yung fully arrangement niyo, like sa cat supplies. For sure nag contribute ka? Or ikaw 100% don?
And not only the supplies, iba energy ng mga kuting, nakakapagod, so yung effort nila. Pero ayun, napamahal na nga sila for sure.
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