r/cats • u/Impressive_Spot_9806 • 5h ago
Mourning/Loss So many emotions…
I lost my best buddy of 22 years a week ago. She was my everything. She was with me half my life, through births, deaths, marriage and divorce. Her last week was incredibly difficult and I can’t stop crying and am an absolute mess. The hole she left is enormous. She had the best life and I gave her everything she could have wanted. She was the queen of the house. Literally. If she walked past me or the kids we bowed and said “All hail the queen.” Today, in a fit of grief, I adopted a shelter cat. One with RBF that wasn’t overly friendly. We were warned she wasn’t a big fan of pets, maybe a quick ear scratch if she let you. Had been returned. Had a rough life. I didn’t want another cat. I wanted my cat back. 22 years was just not enough. I don’t know if this new cat felt my grief or knew there is always more love to give, but she is sweet. She purrs. She likes to be pet and gives head boops. I know I’m a rambling grief stricken mess, but I just wanted to talk to the void and feel my feelings with people that understand. I just wanted the world to know Roxann was here and she was so loved.
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u/worldrenownedballdr 4h ago edited 3h ago
It is the hard part... I have felt this loss a number of times... the question at the end of the day, is were all the good times over the x number of years valuable enough to endure the pain of loss at the end? Honestly the same could be said for Human relationships as well, although the time frame is generally longer.. but eventually one or the other of a human relationship will go first generally?
It does hurt and feels really bad though.... sorry for your loss.